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24 Oct 07 #5221 by loserinlove
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I've been separated 4 months and have had 1 mediation appointment on my own (same as ex) and we've had a joint appointment. He lied his way through it and when I questioned him, was told to 'give him a chance to prove himself' by the mediator. Considering he's a lying cheat I felt gutted when I came out, and although I don't really want to, my solicitor has advised me to go back to sort finances out. Next appointment is the end of Nov and I'm dreading it.

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24 Oct 07 #5223 by Autumn
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It is so difficult isn't it loserinlove, facing your extb in mediation. Am going through it too, our next appointment, next week is to do financials. We have done our parenting plan which I found so weird, discussing birthdays, christmas and the likes in a weird sterile situation with someone who I thought was my life partner.

It's good that your solicitor is advising you to go back, will be cheaper than doing it through them. In what way is your extb being dishonest?

Take care


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24 Oct 07 #5226 by markp
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hi i.ve had my single appointment and just waiting to hear when the first joint appointment will be, but i'm expecting my x2b to lie all the way through it, and she's already told me she will only accept mediation agreement if i give her everything she wants, the only reason shes going is because shes getting legal aid and has been told there will stop her funding if she does not try mediation.

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28 Oct 07 #5422 by comfort
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Mediation is what I am looking into too. I assume there wil be lie told and I will have to sit and take it . . . . Unfortunately, I assume that everyone is like me and will want to do the 'right' thing. I haven't come to termswith the fact that my marraige is over yet and am dreading the 'Real World' Smacking me straight in the face.
Can you do this without a solicitor or do they advise who to go to? Soooo confusing at this stage . . .

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28 Oct 07 #5427 by Fiona
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Opps,wrong thread!:blush:

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