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What is Mediation??

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28 Oct 07 #5417 by comfort
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I dont know where to start with all this. I am the wronged party and yet do not want things to get bitter wisted or nasty. Where do you start on trying to amicably sort things out and who do you go to to say 'this is what we have decided'. . . .
Its all very daunting, upsetting and I really dont now where to start. Its a place, like others, I never thought I would be . . .
Hope someone can help . . .

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28 Oct 07 #5418 by Sera
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Welcome to Divorce Hell! (Sorry, dry sense of humour) We're all mostly in the same boat. Read here, get 'clued-up' and feel free to post for help!

OK. mediation is where you both meet to disclose finances, and decide amicably on how things will be divided. (Also family mediation for issues re: kids). A solicitor will recommend your closest Mediation centre.

There are several threads on Mediation, if that's the route you take. (Quickets and cheapest!)

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Dry I like! Also quickest and cheapest. I have a step-daughter who lives with me (her choice) and i feel this would be the best route to go down for her sake and my sanity. I think that it may cause other problems I havent thought about yet but her welfare comes first. I take it you need a solicitor before doing anything??
Thank you for reply :-)

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28 Oct 07 #5429 by Fiona
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There is evidence that people are more satisfied with agreements they make themselves and are more likely to adhere to the arrangements agreed. Mediation may help divorcing couples negotiate such an agreement and is generally less expensive in time and money than slogging it out through the courts. For mediation to be successful there needs to be co-operation and a willingness to compromise in order to agree arrangements that will work for everyone.

A mediator is an independent and neutral negotiator, who is able to talk to both sides and who works for the benefit of the whole family. As there is just one mediator, they will have a clear idea of the feelings, wishes, hopes and fears of both parties. The mediator will gather all the relevant information and, by using their knowledge and negotiating skills, try to draw the two sides together into a sensible, fair and practical agreement that will be acceptable to both of them and to the courts. IMO the biggest advantage is mediation minimises confrontation, thus reducing damage to future family relationships.

There are different kinds of mediation. Family mediation appears to work well for resolving disputes relating to children. A solicitor mediator has the advantage of having the knowledge acquired through being legally qualified.

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