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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

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Don't know about mediation

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22 Oct 08 #58758 by becky123
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I'm really not sure if I think my mediation is working or not. We have been 3 times now and the mediator always seems to side with my (nearly ex)husband.
We have 3 children who are staying with me, I have a part time job and no prospects because I have been at home with the kids. My husband has a good job, shares and a good pension. I have been told I should get at least 60% of all assets but the mediator wants us to split it all 50/50.
I find myself arguing it out with her while my husband sits and says nothing.
Is it worth carrying on with this, what do others think?
I would welcome any thoughts or advice.
Thankyou.

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22 Oct 08 #58780 by numpteenuts
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mmmmh are you sure the mediator is not his friend - i mean 50/50. Im currently going through the same stage by the sounds of it and it more like 60/40 jsut to start with in your favour then maybe more. Im the money earner and i completely agree with that the wife and kids to get more money out of a settlement if the wife earns less.
Get this - im offering more like 85/15 to my wife and she her bloody solicitor is asking for more. If the mediator doesnt change his mind ask them to write the report that they write at the end of the mediation and go see a solicitor.

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22 Oct 08 #58789 by marriaa
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Hi Becky,
how old are the children?
I agreewith nump,My x2b wanted his friend ,our xbank manager to mediate.lol

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22 Oct 08 #58889 by becky123
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Hi, thanks for your replys. the children are 15, 12 and 10.

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23 Oct 08 #58902 by marriaa
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becky,
with young children you will be entitled to more than 50%
you need to be strong ,court might be best option ,but try mediation as long as you know what you are entitled to.
good luck

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