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Frustrated but won't swear!

  • Blueintears
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13 Nov 08 #64822 by Blueintears
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Hi..Hey here's me thinking I have put in my petition, originally seen solicitor in July, sent off forms for mediation.....might be in my own place for Christmas???? My you must be rolling in the ailes by now you experienced wiki's, Ha ha, I rang mediation today and politely asked when we would have our first joint meeting. Well they received all my paperwork on the 26th October and received his yesterday and to type up the figures of these documents onto one sheet (income x 2, pension x2, no liabilities, mortgage owing) will take 3-4 weeks!!!!
You need a reason for the downturn in growth????
I should have offered to do it for them...after all I have all the figures here anyway....and it certainly wouldn't take 3-4 weeks even if i typed 1 figure a day. I thought they must be inundated bu no there are actually 4 cases in front of me!!!
Think I may re-train I am obviously in the wrong job.
I mean...Jiminy cricket...rocket science it ain't. What's the delay? AAAAAAAAaaaaarrrrgh.

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13 Nov 08 #64827 by marriaa
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too many formalities ,it is very frustrating .
Do swear if it helps.
I never never swear .My x2b made me an offer for settlement -
I was so mad -I rang him and told him
""How generous of you" a big pause then" F OFF" and put the phone down
He was so shocked that he mentioned it to my sister "she swore at me".
It felt good but cannot use this again as will have no effect now.But it did make me feel better and cheered me up.Would have liked to see his face!
we will get there eventually
take care

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13 Nov 08 #64842 by Zara2009
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Hi Blue,

It is a just as well that these 'authorities' do not sell ice-creams:!!!P

What a mess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree it would be much easier if things could be dealt with quickly. Unfortunately it just frustrates us even further to see the snails pace at which some of them work.
It is quite interesting though, you will have to 'swear' on oath;) so better get some practice in.


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