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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


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1st mediation next week - at last!

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05 Dec 08 #70853 by verity
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Hi Blueinters
Yes i been to FDR and it didn't take long for the judge to kick us out as their was nothing he can do because my Ex didn't showed anything on form E only child benefit and pension . and mostly his debt.

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05 Dec 08 #70861 by verity
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Hi shinyhappypeople
I was on legal aids ,but still I had to pay for mediation and my Ex didn't pay when I ask why they say he is on low pay so How can I was on low income and still had to pay , isn't silly. All my Ex was doing is lying , and I showed them all the nmoney he is hiding . didn't do nothing as long as they getting my 40 pound . take care everybody . God Bless
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06 Dec 08 #70963 by Blueintears
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Well I am weighing up everything at the moment...think I will accept offer but ask for all the furniture and the car for quickness. I have made an appointment with a family law specialist just to see what she says. One last question.....if i agree to something and we both sign a Consent Order which goes before the judge..if the judge thinks it is unfair can he stop it? (Does the judge have details of our finances/salary etc?) Thanks. :blink:

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06 Dec 08 #70999 by makeanewstart
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Hope your mediation went well?!

I have my first joint session next week. I have already been for a one on one session.

How many sessions does it typically take... Money is tight now and I can't afford for things to roll on too long.. at £180 per session!!

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06 Dec 08 #71001 by Gilly
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BlueinTears wrote..One last question.....if i agree to something and we both sign a Consent Order which goes before the judge..if the judge thinks it is unfair can he stop it? (Does the judge have details of our finances/salary etc?)


The judge will have both your financial affairs before him/her - and will not endorse the Consent Order if it appears to be to the detriment of one party.

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07 Dec 08 #71040 by Blueintears
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It would have to be a big enough difference in real terms though wouldn't it to make it worth while going to court??

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07 Dec 08 #71074 by Gilly
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Yes it would. Providing both parties have submitted all their relevant financial info- including pensions - which can have significant "unseen" value - then a judge will only agree to the Consent Order if it is broadly fair and meets the needs of any children or parent with care.

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