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1st mediation next week - at last!

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19 Dec 08 #73613 by Blueintears
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:)Well 2nd mediation session today went better than I expected and far better than last time where i thought she was biased. We made a lot of headway.
We are very close to a deal...depending on me being able to afford what is on the table.
Basically we both earn roughly the same and i will be pwc but he is 58 and close to retirement and I am 45.
This is the deal: We both keep our own pensions (him 69k me 22k). He keeps his £8,500 endowment. I take on the 20k owing on house and payhim £55k on top so I will have 75k mortgage and he will have £63,500k. I keep house and contents and car (not worth much but ok for px).

This is the question: When I suggested this he straight away said 'I think you are doing yourself down here' but when i asked him to say why..he backtracked and said ' oh nothing'.
Question 1 - If I can afford mortgage...is this a good deal?
Question 2 - Am I missing something important?
Question 3 - Is the judge likely to agree this as fair or will it get thrown out?


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28 Feb 09 #93951 by Greenweenie
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I know this post is months old, but I am wondering how that first mediation went for both of you? I am in the process of arranging mediation.

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