Only discovered this site today!Have my Decree Nisi but my solicitor insists that we have a fincial settlement before applying for absolute. My problem is that my nearly ex has bought a flat some 120 miles away from the family home where i am still living. He insists on returning here every couple of weeks -mainly to see our sons (both adults),while he is here he just walks into my bedrom and uses the ensuite bathroom maintaining that it is "ours" not just mine. he still pays allt he bills etc., so i feel very vulnerable. I think his behaviour is unreasonable and it has been suggested that i obtain an injunction preventing him from returning home. Has anyone any advice to offer me, plaese!
i am in a similar position, in that my x2b no longer lives in the marital home and was still coming into the house whenever he felt like it. These are my thoughts and should be taken as such. Even if you are divorced, if your x husband is on the deeds and mortgage of the house and no financial settlement has been reached i don't think the fact that you have your absolute would make any difference to him being allowed in to the former marital home. It will be the financial agreement that will stop that. On that point though until you have the absolute the financial settlement doesn't take effect. The law cannot stop him coming into the house, but your solicitor could write to him with your concerns about his behaviour. There is a thing called an Occupancy Order but it is costly and i am not sure whether a judge would deem it suitable in your case, as there is no physical threat to you or yours. I know the law stinks and if you get to know my story you will find out why i hold this belief, but i won't go there now. I would suggest you raise the issue again with your solicitor and see what they suggest. Hope my waffle has provided you with a least some insight, sorry it probably isn't what you want to hear.
Thanks for the advice -I rather thought that this would be the case. Think he does it just because he CAN! Hopefully we will have financial settlement after going to court in January - but that's an experience I'm not looking forward to. He says I don't need as much money as he does as the next man in my life will keep me!! what an MCP.