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Wife wont go to Mediation

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16 Dec 08 #72984 by verity
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Hi No1
sorry to hear,My Ex got married while still married to me and then apply for divorced . for the financial he didn't do nothing then he appear from nowhere and tell my solicitor he want to go to mediation , well I didn't want to go because I though It was like counselling which is very hurtful when I speak to a counsellor ,all the time crying , the I phone the mediation people and explain to them why I don't want to come .My solicitor ask me if I did go to mediation , I said no , then she explain to me its for financial ,to save money from court ., after that I agree to go , then while going to mediation I was the one that pay and my ex didn't. when the mediator ask my Ex for some paper to prove about his car ,he disapear for a year and came back and wanted to go to mediation again , but this time I didn't want to go to mediation because I didn't want him to do a runner again so I told the solicitor I want to go to court. May be someone should explain to your Ex about mediation properly.. Take care .God Bless.

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16 Dec 08 #73015 by No1
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Hi to all

Thank you for the responce, I joined Wikivorce back in August time, to date it has given me the best support and advise you could ever have.

One thing about all this ist that I felt I was the only one, but it seems fair from the truth.

Thanks

No1

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16 Dec 08 #73033 by markg3010
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my ex solicitor told me that it does nt reflect well on the party who refuses mediation with a court. Can someone please clarify if this is ever taken into consideration with the court / judge

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17 Dec 08 #73061 by Ritchie
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markg

Mine has said the same, that if it does go to court & all the agreements we reached in mediation (that she has now gone back on) & the fact she now refuses to go will go against her. Like you, it would be interesting to see if anyone has actually any experience of that being the case

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17 Dec 08 #73210 by verity
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I'm just worry now because I didn't want to go to mediation the second time as my Ex disapear after 4 session and he came back after a year and he wanted to go to mediation and I didn't I wanted to go to court.does that mean I'm in trouble for not going to mediation the second time .will I get told off in court. Please advice . Thank you . God bless.

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17 Dec 08 #73220 by gorgeous
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Hi
mediation - if she knows shes in the wrong that would explain why she wont go. She may feel it wont achieve anything because she is determined to think she is right Was she a stubborn person ? Could it be that because you suggested it that was enough for her to say no?
At the end of the day you can put together a formal arrangement through your solicitor and if its broken take her to court. She would have to explain why mediation couldnt take place.
Perhaps if you agreed on having separate rooms so she wouldnt have to look you in the eye she may agree.
Best of look not easy take care x

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17 Dec 08 #73226 by No1
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My wife has been on a different agenda all year, this has resulted in the neglect of our children and the breakdown of our marrage.

I feel that this is the reason she won't go to mediation.

I was advised back in Feb to start taking notes, this is what I have done.

She is aware of these notes, which is a possible other reason.

Cheers

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