Hi, i am currently goin through a divorce with my ex-wife to be(18mnths in proceedings) and have a gorgeous 2yr old daughter along with it. I have tryed to get it through to my solicitors that i have been getting messed around with times and dates to get contact with my daughter and is getting beyond a joke now. My sols mentioned mediation which went on for about 2-3 months without even seeing my daughter before any thing even started, so its about the 3rd time i have had contact with my daughter and it all starts again with my ex. Mediation say they cant really do anything i should sort it out with my ex and my sols are jus a waste of time hence the divorce proceedings taking so long as i was told 3-6 months.
I have a partner now for just over a year and another gorgeous 2yr old and this has affected us all through one stupid immature cow!
Thinking of court but sols and mediation keep putting me off for some reason.
Any help on moving forward with this would be much appreciated.
The basis of good contact for children is that parents can learn to communicate and rub along together, the court process makes that impossible. Forced arrangements tend to result in contact being lost altogether after a couple of years out of court or applications being made repeatedly through the courts. So if at all possible it is much better to avoid the courts and work through the problems. Other ways of doing that might be family counseling or family therapy even.
Courts will invariably support contact unless there is an exceptional reason not to and as a last resort application Form C100 and guidance leaflet CB1 is available to download from hmcourts website.
Thanks for replying but still dont help the matter of me the father being manipulated as all fathers seem to get in this country and dont really have a say in what goes on and thats whee my annoyance has come from. The least contact with the ex the better. I cant get on with my new life at all as its causing friction between my ex and new partner, seems as my ex is using my daughter as a tool of jelousy as me and my partner have noticed which is unfair on my daughter.