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1st mediation on 23rd

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14 Mar 09 #98855 by cindygirl
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At last, we both have appointments to start mediation on 23rd March. I'm unsure what will happen on that date & im feeling a bit nervous about it. My ex doesnt feel he should pay me anything more from the MH that he still lives in. I left n 2004 to rent a house after his physical abuse & continued affairs. He remortgaged 17 grand & gave me it to start over again, i took nothing at all out of the MH. I divorced him (Decree Nisi) 8th Dec 2008 after attempts to reconcile kept failing due to his long affair with OW. There is 37 grand equity in MH, i take it i allow him 17 grand too & it leaves 20 grand? Is 50/50 split fair? We have no kids, married 14 yrs & cohabited 3 yrs before marriage. House bought in his sole name 3 yrs after cohabitting & moved in together. Thanks

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24 Mar 09 #101728 by Young again
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Hi Cindygirl,

£10k after 17 years? It doesn't seem fair on the face of it but if that is all there is to split then that is that.

What about your combined savings, pensions, incomes, chattels?

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24 Mar 09 #101768 by cindygirl
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Hi YA, yes it does seem such a little amount to start over again. I did take 17 grand in March 2005 though. Theres very little in the form of pensions to divide so not worth bothering with, as for savings, he has none, just a lot of debts & credit cards since i moved out. I guessjust have to do the best with what i do get & simply forget & move on.

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