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14 Feb 08 #13925 by Byza
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I am seeing a solicitor tomorrow pm for the first time following my separation. I have opted for one who offers 'first half hour free' just because i want to know that I can work with her and not feel intimidated by their position. I just want advice from them as my s2bx and I hope to sort as much as we can out amicably before getting solicitors to rubber stamp what we have agreed. Has anyone got any experience of this and what sort of questions I need to get answered on my first visit.

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14 Feb 08 #13931 by Ladybird22
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Hi Byza, I have been for 3 of these and they are really just a hook to get you in. Take a list of questions you want answered and a pen to write down the answers. The time goes very quickly, mostly taken up by them telling you the things you already know (if you have been reasearching a bit on this site). One thing in their favour is they don't pressure you to make a decision there and then. They all say go away and think about things and that is what you should do, especially if you and your x2b are amicable. I came away every time thinking of other things I should have asked. If needs be, see 2 or 3 on this free service because once you give them the go ahead, it is going to cost you between 150 - 200 pounds an hour! I am still wondering whether to use solicitors or do it myself - I think there are some good on-line sites which will manage it for you if there are no complications - but I haven't checked them out properly yet. Does's anyone else here have any advice about them?
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14 Feb 08 #13936 by Byza
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Hi ladybird!
Thanks for the advice. Will write some questions out before my visit tomorrow. I probably do know quite a bit it's true, but need to get the ball rolling and move on.
Hadn't thought about using more than one.....good call.
At least I will know who I will get on with.
My problem is that I talk a lot and my partner says I will rabbit on without getting anywhere....apart from poorer from the legal bill !!
Thanks again... and if anyone has any more advice would be grateful before tomorrow pm

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14 Feb 08 #13937 by Elle
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I have to agree with byza....although others more fortunate will reasonably disagree. My experience is the solicitors reel you in, you sign on the dotted line and from then on their meter is ticking and nothing else moves. I envy those that this didnt happen to, however it appears i am not alone in my view. Researching the sites, experiences, options etc is a good idea before making any commitment....best wishes
Elle

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16 Feb 08 #14108 by gone1
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Not all solicitors are created equal. Despite popular belief they are not in it for the money. Although they do make a lot. Its not as much as they could make from comercial (thats loads of money) they are reckoned to make as much as doctors. But there are all kinds of sols as there are all kinds of people. Choose wisely. You will be spending a lot of money with them and you dont want someone that will sqaunder your hard earned money.


I was lucky I got a good one and she kept costs down. Do most of the leg work for them and you will save money. Remember client instructs and solicitor acts. Dont be led by the nose.

Also I think women solicitors are better then men. As in life women are more organised then men. Go into a womens solictors office and compare it against a mens office and you will see why. But thats just my opionion. Chris.

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16 Feb 08 #14110 by Byza
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Thanks Chris
I went for my first visit yesterday, and saw a legal exec who I must say I was able to get on with immediatey. Gave me lots of sound advice without me feeling pressurised at all.

May see another one just to compare notes. Still want to get agreement amicably with Ex but don't think that will happen, as Sol convinced me thhat I don't need to feel guilty and give money away because of that, which is what I was going to do. All should be equal in our case 50/50.

If ex disagrees then it will cost him a lot of money, foy little or no gain so lets see his response to my proposal of last night !!

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