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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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15 Aug 07 #2025 by gone1
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Donna. Its unlikely that your ex will get custody. Custody is usualy joint these days unless you are a convicted axe murderer. Your best friend is the CAB. They will advise you of what todo. If you have to do this yourself just take it bit by bit. Think of it like eating an elephant. Chunk by chunk. Its realy 3 bits. Divorce itself which is about £200 for the pettion. Get that started and get it to nisi stage then do the children bit. Once you got that sorted start the ancilory relief. After you have done all that you will be an expert. There are self repping people on this forum that can help you. I am mostly self repping and only use a solicitor for the bits I cant do. But then I am stupid bloke haha. Chris.

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15 Aug 07 #2028 by divwiki
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Hi Donna, it's all been a learning curve for me too. The Law Society produce quite a digestible overview called your guide to getting a divorce that they should be able to mail for you for free. It might even be available online www.lawsociety.org.uk

Once you have the basics you will then start to ask more specific questions which many members on here will be happy to help you with. They're a good, knowledgable lot.

Still keep the e-mails as evidence and get a friend with a cool head to go through them with you to assess if it's simply an angry man sounding off (not that that's an excuse) or if he is being abusive, threatening, using abusive language, etc. If that's the case you can go back to the Police and demand it's recorded and request they investigate again. Having a crime number might help with future injunctions, anti-harrassment law, etc if you go down that route.

Good luck with it all and keep in touch.

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22 Aug 07 #2261 by 1957
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Hiya, I tried to start a new thread but didn't know how so sorry for marching in here.
But may be you can help?
I need to find a solicitor who can just simply confirm in writing the figure my husband will have to pay me in maintenance support so I can show this to him, otherwise he would not believe me.
How long do you reckon would it take to check the figures and put this in writing? You can count on husbands co-operation cause he wants me to sign over half of the house which I'm not doing until child's and maintenance support is contract.
we both want to settle this in peace simply because of the baby and he does wants to be a dad. So this was the only matter we just didn't agree on.

Please Please help
kind regards
1957

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22 Aug 07 #2267 by DownButNotOut
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1957,

Well...unfortunately i think it very unlikely you will find a solicitor to do what you ask.

You want them to spend 1 hour looking over your figures and then give you an informed view on a fair maintenance...then you and hubby will agree and get finalised an order.

Problem is that this is not good business for a solicitor. They only get 1 hours pay and have to commit in writing to a figure that is at best an educated guess (outcomes at court vary quite a lot on similar cases) which you may later hold against them if their figure turns out to be wrong.
So ..... they wont do it.

GOOD News!

If you give your full details here....
Assets: house, pensions, savings
Debts: mortgage, loans etc
Earning power - what he and you earn
Marriage length
Kids (nbr of) and who they will live with

I can give you that educated guess figure for free :)

Of course im an anonymous non-legal internet user so you cant later moan if my figure wasnt spot on! But right now you probably have little clue of even the ballpark figure...I can give you that so at least then you can show hubby what the figure is and the legal rationale for that figure.B)

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22 Aug 07 #2268 by 1957
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Hiya, thanks for that but I used the calculator myself already.
Thanks for the advice I will prepare for lots of time then.
Cheers

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22 Aug 07 #2287 by Sera
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Agreed on the solicitor greed angle.... why do an honest hours work, when they can line-their-pockets for more!?

I had a 'free consultation' with a solicitor, then told I needed a 'senior partner' to deal with my issues. I don't want that because they charge over £200 per hour if a senior person does the work.

I've shopped around, but they see money in our 'pot' and try and 'talk-up' the issues, and inflate their fees.

So glad this place exists, at least for the pulling-together, and sharing of experience.

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22 Aug 07 #2291 by CollaborativeFamilyLaw
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Why do so many of you seem to want something for nothing? In my experience you get what you pay for. The whole "free consultation buisness " stinks...why would anyone want to work for nothing ? Belive me most familt solicitors are not well paid in comparison to other lawyers. Generally speaking they do the job because they want to help people.

If you give a solicitor the necessary info,he or she will usually be happy to give you a short written opinion. Negotiate a fixed fee with them beforehand.

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