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02 Jul 12 #340503 by hattiedaw
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I''m 3 year into trying to sort out finances (please see my other posts).
I''ve already spent 30K with my solicitor and barrister getting things ready for the FH which is in 3 weeks.
Received a letter from solicitor last week asking for 10K for FH. I presumed that as there is a lot of money at stake here (100K+) that my charges for the FH would be taken out of what I got in court (at the last hearing the just suggested 70/30 share with my and my ex with me getting the 70% but the FH is going to be with a different judge).
Spoke to my solicitor today. He said (1) despite me meeting the criteria there is no time now to go for legal aid. (2) That my barrister would not take on a legal aid case. (3) To put a charge on the 100K+ my solicitor is holding (it is equity from a joint property sale) he''d need my ex''s permission which he would not give.
I asked my solicitor whats going to happen. I just cannot raise 10K. He said if I didnt raise it before the case then I''m on my own.
I''m distraught, just cant think, cant function.
I''m not a confident person. I dont know what to do. I could come out of this with NOTHING except debts my ex has fraudulently got me into.
Told solicitor that if he wasnt sure I''d get any of the 100K then I didnt have much confidence in him.
If the worst comes to the worst could my best friend act as my McKensie friend? She knows the details inside out. Could my ex say he didnt want her in the court room as he knows her (not well but knows shes my best friend). She is a lot more confident than me at speaking up etc.
Please can somebody help me?
Also, my best friend has suggested we ask the barrister to act pro bono if he thinks +I''ll get a share of the 100K+ - would this be an ok thing to ask him when I see him later?

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02 Jul 12 #340523 by hattiedaw
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Bump...anyone?
I''m seeing my barrister in a couple of hours!

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02 Jul 12 #340540 by sun flower
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Hattiedaw - I have no experience in these things, but I at least wanted you to know I''ve read your post and send some moral support. I hope you get some more concrete support too, but meanwhile I will be thinking of you. sc

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02 Jul 12 #340548 by afonleas
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Hattie,
Also cannot help,but would really just like to give my love and support!!
Hope all goes well for you later
(((((hattie)))))

Luv and Cwtchs ...........Afon xx

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04 Jul 12 #341191 by Furball
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Hattiedaw only just seen this, how did you get on? Did you get an answer to any of this?

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06 Jul 12 #341588 by hattiedaw
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My parents have bailed me out.
Thank god for them. Just fingers crossed now I get a share of the 100+K so I can pay them back!
Thanks for your concern.

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06 Jul 12 #341590 by Furball
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Glad things are OK for you

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