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ridiculous false allegations from ex husband

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17 Aug 12 #350220 by anny
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I had a first hearing I was nervous and drain it was supposse to be at 11:45 it only happen at 2:00pm and lasted 20 mins.
nothing was solved my ex husband even raised more false allegations now saying on top of everything else I am a with ad my 5 year old daughter is scared of me, (he said I wanted to kill her, i want to tell sell her, I am an abuser; I want to take her to my country for a religious ceremony to cut her genitals, that my family in my country are sexual offenders; that I have tried to stab him with a knife 2 years ago, that all my friends here in uk are druggies and prostittues and that I am an alcoholic) he is not backing down in all this allegations and of course none of it is true and possible and there is no proof, on top of everything I got txt asking me to go back with him after all this alegations were done.
will he get in trouble or told off when they find all this is not true and has been stopping me from seeing my daughter with lies??? will it make any difference in the end??
Anyway my concerns are that he is mentally unstable because of his PSTD for whic he takes meds and seems to make him even more delusional as you see, but of course I feel noone is listening to me at all!! I tried n tried.

Anyway in the first hearing he didnt agree to contact only contact at the contact centre every forthnight for 2 hours up to know he was supervising the visits we had a few probems with this and was stop, now I dontknow what to do about calls or if I can go to see her at her school I dont know, anyway the judge granted him residence!! apparently to keep his peace of mind and said they are gonna do a finding fact hearing I havent got a copy of the order, but nothing much as solved about contact, CAFFCAS wasnt gonna get involved as they feel they shouldnt but his solicitor was insistant on it saying that they should start inestigating now as both parties got concerns so my solicitor agreed to that and now they are gonna inesvtigate I am ok with but is gonna drag longer and noone isdoing anythiong about my contact!, there isnt another contact centre wuo does weekly visits so I am stuck my ex is very unresanoble about me calling now if I do Im worried hell say Im breaching an order Im desperate (((

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17 Aug 12 #350224 by Fiona
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The thing is that until the courts investigate they don''t know the allegations are ridiculous and in the meantime they treat allegations as though they might be true.

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18 Aug 12 #350424 by anny
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I saw her at the contact centre we played for 2 hours, she wanted to spend more time is obvious she isnt scare of me is only when he is around at least she seems ok but she told me she misses me and I miss her too, I cant believe he is doing this to us, I feel I have aged 10 years today.

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