I''m going out of my mind with worry. My wife went to see her solicitor for "advice" about separation - and says she doesn''t want to separate - but I found a letter from her solicitor which reads:
"Dear Mrs xxx
We thank you for letting us have your instructions to act on your behalf in the above matter. We write to confirm the basis on which we will carry out those instructions etc etc"
She brushed it off and said it was just vanilla follow up letter they sent out - possibly in case we do separate - but it sounds like she has asked them to go ahead.
I do not believe that a solicitor would write to a party confirming that they were prepared to act in separation unless there was some merit in it.
It might be that your wife is just thinking about it but as seen so many times on here one party is often (mostly) way, way ahead of the other party.
I understand you must be worried sick but as a precaution right now I would personally be careful not to allow more joint debt, not if possible to let this fear put you in a needy, questioning and paranoid frame of mind.
Attempt to stay level headed and rather than surcumbing to feelings of anxiety and betrayal take a step back and look at your own feelings and your own needs in all of this.