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04 Jan 16 #471648 by sahmfool
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Hi
First hearing we both self represented but because he was thrown out of judges room for being rude I was too afraid to speak much and therefore felt at a disadvantage,
For the 2nd hearing I need to take someone with me but the judge when I asked said not to bother as no one would know our case (very simple ) in any depth. I am now worried that it won''t look good on me if I go against what the judge wants?
Also how likely will it be that we reach a fair settlement with only one party represented?
I should add my stbx accused me of lying about 3 major financial assets which was blatantly untrue, another reason for my reluctance to attend alone.
Many thanks in anticipation

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06 Jan 16 #471791 by sahmfool
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Anyone?
Thank you

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06 Jan 16 #471793 by perin123
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Sorry I can''t help you, but hopefully some wise wiki will soon answer.

Good luck. X

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06 Jan 16 #471799 by sahmfool
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Thank you anyway!

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06 Jan 16 #471802 by Ebonee67
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I am sure someone on here advised me that I could take a friend into the court room if I wrote to the judge in advance to ask permission. You shouldn''t get the same judge in any hearing I believe so you wouldn''t be writing to the judge who said no? Explain clearly why you feel you need someone with you and see what is said.

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08 Jan 16 #471874 by Astral
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At the FDR,the other party can refuse to have anyone else in the room as confidential financial details are discussed.
My husbands ex turned up with a friend and the judge asked him if he minded,he said he did and this friend was not allowed in.
Don''t know about other hearings,he has his final hearing in February and intends to object if she brings anyone in,but the judge might allow it.

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