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Fed up with his Solicitor!!!

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17 Oct 07 #4844 by Sera
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I'm so fed up with the aggressive nature of my x2b's solicitors, that I am wondering if there is anything I can do to stop dealing with them.

They claim in court I'd been abusive to them on the phone. I HAVE NOT!!!!
They consistently lie about me, and they have a local reputation for being aggressive bulies.

I'm self-repping, so I know they wouldn't get away with treating me like this if I was legally represented, or making stupid (worthless) Orders to me.

I've written asking if they practive 'Collaborative Law' (since talks in mediation have stopped, so I'm assuming the next step is collaborative?)

If they don't, can I refuse to deal with them further?

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19 Oct 07 #4950 by gone1
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Hi Sera. Divorce is combative. Not sure if I spelled that right but its combat with words and determination. I dont think you can just say I wont deal with you. You have to if you want to prosecute your divorce.

Thing is they know the law and we are just lay people. You will have to learn fast and deal with all the sh1t that they throw at you. But remember desperate people do desperate things. They may be slinging sh1t at you because they know they dont have much to go on and they are hoping you will just go away.

Thing is for me if someone hits me I hit them back. If I get knocked down I get up. Same, same and so on. In the end you will win the day. You have to hit them back but you have to work out the game and what you can do to them. They will be weak somewhere. Look for it and exploit it.

The world rewards people that try and keep trying and keep going. Chris.

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19 Oct 07 #4958 by Vail
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Sera,

There are guidelines for how Family law solicitors are to act, sorry but I don't have them to hand, the web might.

Aside from that, how about writing to them asking them to stop harrasing you with telephone calls, to keep their communication with you in writing and strictly to do with the divorce only.

Keep a copy for future court use, it may come in useful.

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19 Oct 07 #4965 by Sera
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They've written again today to say that their 'client' (that'll be the sh*thead that I live with!) will cancel mediation because the mediator has given a view that I am not suited to mediation! (Erm NO!!!!) X2B won't give an honest reply to anything!!!!

They have also said they are not certified practioners of 'Collaborative Law'.

So, I guess we'll start trooping off to court next year... or the year after...

I will indeed outline my reasons for mediation breaking down, and indeed that letter will be added to any Trial Bundle of the future.

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19 Oct 07 #4977 by Sera
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I'm trying to persuade ex to do collaborative law.

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20 Oct 07 #4978 by sexysadie
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Collaborative law requires mutual trust and respect. I'm not sure, Sera, whether your ex really has or deserves either of these from you, and he doesn't seem to have either for you. I suppose it might be a way of defusing things (I tried that myself, but he didn't go for it) but I wouldn't hold out too much hope. I think he would also have to change solicitors as in my experience collaborative lawyers won't work with you collaboratively once they have given you adversarial advice.

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20 Oct 07 #4990 by Sera
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I'm now just going to let his sol lead in whatever they throw at me.

Ex can't be honest about finances in mediation, so I imagine he'd be no different with collaborative law.

I don't have to 'do' anything until end Jan, when I'll obviously have to question the lies on his form E.

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