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Fed up with his Solicitor!!!

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22 Oct 07 #5095 by gone1
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Collaborative law requires mutual trust and respect.
Sadie


Sadie. And thats the one thing that is missing when you divorce, trust and respect. But I suppose it depends what has been done to you that defines if this type of divorce is suitable or not.

In my experiance most people that divorce, is the result of some misdemenor as in adultary or violence (both men and women). There is no way that I could negotiate with my ex as its her way or no way. I would love nothing more than to be able to sit round a table and negotiate our way out of this. But there is too much blood on the floor to be able to do that. I feel utterly disposed off and abused. There is no way back from that. And she would love to be able to step over me in the gutter. Chris.

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09 Nov 07 #6276 by Sera
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I started griping weeks ago about the Litigation Conduct of ex's sols....

I posted this in my non-mol /occupation order thread:

And here's yet more evidence of his appaling Litigation Conduct'.

His sols have today given me an entirely new Court Bundle, (six days before Hearing) with different pagination to the original one we went to Court with for the meeting in chambers..... and now what do I do about this:

THEY'VE REMOVED THE EXHIBIT THAT PERTAINED TO HIS ACTUAL VIOLENCE TOWARDS ME, WHEN HE PUNCHED ME THIS YEAR!!!!!
They've changed the pagination of all the Witness statements, that now no longer pertain to my references in my statements.

So the Trial Bundle is massively confusing, and really hard to prepare for Cross Examination!

FOUL PLAY!!! Any suggestions?

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09 Nov 07 #6277 by Louise11
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My advice? Dont bother with theirs at all and sort your own bundle. You have all the documents ect ect that you need dont you? Then forget theirs totally and prepare your own, keeping it short and sweet, with everything you want to show to the Judge, paginate it and make 3 copies, one for you, one for them and one for the Judge. We did this as theirs arrived 2 days before the FH, we then sent ours to court and guess what? Judge never even looked at theirs, it was a bundle of trollop, pages and pages and pages long! Think it was 500 pages in all, in ours it had a maximum of 75 pages, all paginated, all evidenced with documents. The Judge referred to ours throughout and ignored theirs.

We won our case! that says it all.

Kind ones
Louise

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09 Nov 07 #6278 by Louise11
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09 Nov 07 #6279 by Sera
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it was a bundle of trollop,


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... pages long because they're earning around £200 an hour to type it up!

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09 Nov 07 #6286 by Louise11
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Yep true and guess what? When the FH was adjourned for 4 weeks, hey presto right before the next FH, yep! You guessed it, they sent us ANOTHER one exactly the same with pages and pages, but this one had 2 new pages, so all in all we had two bundles exactly the same and my husbands pension booklet he posted them, every single page of the booklet all nice and photocopied???????????? Why not just put the booklet in the bundle? Because it costs their client? Do you think? Mmmmmmmmmmm and now its all gone quiet on the western front? Four weeks final hearing over, done and dusted, 3 years of fighting for a pension share and nothing, zip? No mention of writing to pension fund for their share? Just a letter stating pay that court cost of £890 otherwise we shall start litigation against you? We have rang them, twice this week, no return of call, my husband wrote to them asking for their clients address so his pension fund manager can write to his ex for her share? and nothing. Weird or what?
I give up!

Louise :P

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09 Nov 07 #6287 by Sera
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every single page of the booklet all nice and photocopied???????????? Why not just put the booklet in the bundle?


I've learnt that the Courts don't want 'originals'. Apparently, Court offices lose things, so they ask that you bring originals to Hearings, (incase they are needing to be seen)

However, no pension booklets from me, I'll be long since dead (from Exhaustion!) before I get to FH..:dry:

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