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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

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'Part-use' of a solicitor?

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25 Apr 17 #491420 by Judith68
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So I am not getting on well with the STBX and am worried that the divorce process could become messy as we will disagree. My preference would be to use the services on here to save an awful lot of legal costs. I am more concerned about the fiancés going forward than the marital status, but it seems logical to do it as a process (or is it?)

Married 13 years, 8 year old boy who we share the care 50/50 for, no worries about maintenance as we agreed this. We still jointly own the house although I moved out last year and have not contributed to the costs (running or mortgage) since then. He suggests a 50/50 equity slit but he earns significantly more than me (I am £25k, he is £70K). Is my only course of action to do this via a solicitor?
TIA Judith

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25 Apr 17 #491426 by rubytuesday
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The financial consultation service is a great cost effective way for you to find out where you stand legally and what a fair settlement is likely to look like.

Once you have that information, you will be much better placed to have constructive discussion with your husband about coming to a financial settlement. Just because he's saying one thing doesn't mean that it's either true or fair.

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26 Apr 17 #491452 by Carlsberg71
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Hi Judith,
I was in the same position as you, I could foresee the divorce process becoming very messy and boy was I right. Luckily after mediation failed, I realised this and took the bull by the horns and drove the divorce process myself by using the fantastic services on here.
What I would say though is get the divorce process going, apply for the ancillary relief, get help from Nicola on here to help with the form E, there is a fee but she is brilliant, then when you get your Stbx's paperwork back then use the financial service on here to see where you stand for settlement. Unfortunately I used the financial services before I had all the financial information available so it wasn't a true representation.

Hope this helps

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