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27 Jan 18 #499071 by Bibbobs
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For two years have been heavy handed with their litigation. Yesterday my four year old son was very unwell.i asked my ex if he could swap days and offered him an alternative as he was laid up in bed. Offered him a forgone call and facetinecetc. Next thing no reply see what was wrong how he was nothing. Just a letter from his solicitor saying I "purporting" that he is unwell!!!
So basically accusing me of lying!? What can I do I have evidence from the Drs and he was threatening to enforce there has not been any other missed contact! Neither did he or solicitor once ask how he was.

Any ideas? I don't take kindly to being told I am lying about my sons health.

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27 Jan 18 #499075 by WYSPECIAL
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Crikey a very quick letter!

Don't rise to the bait and get emotional about your honesty being questioned.

The letter will have cost your ex money!

I would either not respond or write back politely pointing out what you have put in your post here. If you write back it will cost your ex more for the solicitor to read the letter.

Remember it isn't the solicitor behind this. They are paid to take their clients instruction and have a living to make. They will only know what your ex told them.

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27 Jan 18 #499077 by Bibbobs
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Money is no object. He must have got straight on to them and he had told her wrong details but I have he email I sent him as back up he just added some extra what wasn't on there! I asked her to show me where I cancelled contact all weekend and she couldn't!

It's a control issue and unfortunately he does not put my sons welfare first.

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29 Jan 18 #499119 by .Charles
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The easiest way to deal with this is to show the solicitor that their client is lying to them. Send a copy of the doctor's letter or a photo of the medication with the date/time etc. and politely state that their client has misrepresented the position.

Whilst you have to go to some effort and thus dance to your ex's tune a little, if he is intent upon repeating this stunt he will look less credible in light of false accusations.

He will look like what he is - a controlling ex who has more interest in disrupting his ex's life than having contact with his child.

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29 Jan 18 #499122 by Bibbobs
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Thank you Charles. I sent the photo over of the consultation which the Dr printed out to his solicitors. I also have the email I sent to him stating he was unwell and offering an alternative.

He has been unwell all weekend and he has not seen or asked how he is once!

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12 Mar 18 #500163 by Clockit
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I really wouldn't stress over solicitors abrupt letters, as others have said, it is your ex instructing them on what to do.

Its sad to hear your ex is more focused on annoying you rather than caring for his child.

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