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The Ex using MY Solicitor.....!

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15 May 19 #507584 by Grrrrrrrrrr01
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Hi all, I haven't posted in quite some time.

Still having problems with the EX, she has now refused to use a Solicitor for a dispute still ongoing.

She Now phones MY solicitor & talks to him about what she will & won't do & HE keeps charging me a fixed fee for it......Is this correct ?

I don't want him consulting with her, Can we make her have her own solicitor ?

Thanks in advance G

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15 May 19 #507588 by spinit
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I was on the other side of this and I have to be honest when I was presenting in person my ex's solicitor was really helpful and would talk me through things and so on. Essentially they are officers of the court and if only one side is represented they have some duty to help the other side, how much will probably depend on how your ex or me in my case talks to them.

The only way I can see you can stop this given normally her solicitor would talk to your solicitor so as she is not represented he has to talk with her but given his duty to the court and if she is being nice to him then he will be helping her get her case organised in a way that the court can accept. So the only way I can see you could stop this is by firing them and self representing yourself.

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15 May 19 #507590 by Grrrrrrrrrr01
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Thanks for your response, The courts are no longer involved, that side of things are over with. This is about me trying to take her back to court on an order she has failed to comply with.

I have explained to my solicitor that she needs to instruct a legal team for herself so they can communicate through each other.

I may have to approach him again & explain that I don't want him to assist her at my expense, it's funny how she always instructs her own solicitor to get the ball rolling & then kicks them to the kerb.

Oh well, maybe time to find another Solicitor, The ex has screwed me over too many times to do it again.

Thanks G

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15 May 19 #507591 by WYSPECIAL
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Maybe he is trying to reduce costs to you by avoiding court by talking to your ex rather than helping her?

Communicating with her solicitor, if she appointed one, would cost the same amount.

Surely you want to resolve the matter as quickly and cheaply as possible?

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15 May 19 #507592 by .Charles
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There is no requirement for a person to instruct a lawyer. In the absence of a lawyer your solicitor has to deal directly with your ex - that's how it should be.

If you ex instructed a solicitor you would still be paying your solicitor to communicate with your ex's solicitor, albeit that process would probably be more efficient.

If you want to save legal fees you could deal directly with your ex and not use solicitors at all.

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15 May 19 #507593 by Grrrrrrrrrr01
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Hi Charles,

Thank you for your reply, I'm not able to deal with her directly as I have an injunction in place against her.

Hence the reason I want things done through solicitors. She recently turned up at my new address & threw a brick through my partners window, no doubt, denied all knowledge of it, until a neighbour rocked up with evidence on their CCTV.

Thanks for your reply....G

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15 May 19 #507594 by Grrrrrrrrrr01
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I want this sorted once & for all, this has been going on now for 5 years.

I have had to instruct a solicitor to sort it out, as she has refused to comply with a court ruling from 2016.

I have given her plenty of time to sort things out, played more than fair, then she creeps out of the woodwork after a skin full of booze yet again & starts threating me & making demands.

She went to a process server to find me because I had to move 180 miles away to get away from her.

Not content with finding me, she then decided to torment my partner & make threats & proceed with awful destructive acts against my partners property.

I have no choice but to go through a solicitor to protect myself from allegations by her & more so to protect my partner.

Many thanks for your reply.....G

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