I am right at the start of the process- but I have appointed a solicitor and she has requested a number of documents (relating to his business and properties he owns- all bought whilst married) from my husband. He is not willing to provide any of this information and is adamant that he wont.
I earn a similar salary to him and have a pension, the properties he has bought were his "pension"
I think the properties and my pension will potentially cancel each other out? But until the figures are there how do I know? I am a teacher so my earnings are very transparent, I have nothing to hide. He is self employed and is "cash rich".
We are still living under the same roof and he will not discuss finances with me, without becoming irate.
If you agree things between yourselves it’s fine and draw up a Consent Order accordingly.
If you think the ex has more or things hidden then the only way is the court route when he HAS to disclose things.
The court route is very expensive and time consuming.
If you have an idea yourself of what you would be happy with to move on independently then I would aim for that.
By going to court you are depleting the pot.
A solicitor is just trying to find out how much the pot is worth.