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19 Dec 07 #9290 by topaz
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our e forms xchanged over a month ago.not heard from sol since I received x's e form copy.I realize it takes time for my sol 2 go through it all but x2b now pressuring me, bullying intimidating behaviour again re selling the house and split as 50/50.is it normal not 2 hear yet.I did return my comments on sx2b's e form 3 weeks ago.should I ring and ask what's happening? but it'll cost me more money doing that or just sit it out till he contacts me.div abs this week but not getting it yet till money/assets sorted.Ive no idea yet what % my sol is going for but I know more than 50/50. 60/40split mentioned originally as poss if not more due to my circumstances.with sx2b in MH life is v v difficult AND V STRESSFUL.WOULD GIVE FINCL. INFO IN A PRIVATE MESSAGE IF NEEDED.

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20 Dec 07 #9300 by zozo
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Dear topaz
My situation is exactly like yours and I have been waiting for thirty days now from the time I met my sol.trying to be patient and not spend more mony as my bill has roketed recently.Now I am trying not to contact sol.until newyear.God help you and me.I know it is very very difficult to wait more than that.Especially in xmas time,and also you want to know what you will get and you want to stop being wored but all this I think depend on if you want or you can pay more mony.I understand also how much it is difficult if he is in theFH but I am sure you can make it.
Take care and good luck.
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20 Dec 07 #9303 by loobyloo
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I had fdr on 5th dec when nowt sorted so fh next year
since that day have heard nothing from my sol and like you say costs if you phone email etc
I know directions where given in fdr for things to do etc so im to in limbo
bloody law hey
looby

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20 Dec 07 #9317 by BlueGangster
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this is a difficult time and there is no time period for the examination of the form. You are correct in that it does take time to pour over so much information and depending on the amount of money involved and the distribution IE pensions, savings, bond etc, this can extend the time dramatically.

Are you receiving any payments from your stbx? Do you have your own income? Are there kids involved?

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20 Dec 07 #9319 by loobyloo
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i went to court for interim maintainance for me and kids i left my job when had to move cos he wouldnt budge
he is a gp and i was practice nurse.. not his tho... he gives us as arranged at court doors 1k monthly(not 4 weekly) the kids are 8 and 10 i have been to csa who have had to go to inland rev as he not complied with them
so good and bad in all just feeling the pinch from having all to very little.... but kids happy as am i most of time
lost confidence for a while but am thinking to get back out there and use my quals... just child care as moved 120 miles away and know not many folk
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20 Dec 07 #9320 by loobyloo
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i went to court for interim maintainance for me and kids i left my job when had to move cos he wouldnt budge
he is a gp and i was practice nurse.. not his tho... he gives us as arranged at court doors 1k monthly(not 4 weekly) the kids are 8 and 10 i have been to csa who have had to go to inland rev as he not complied with them
so good and bad in all just feeling the pinch from having all to very little.... but kids happy as am i most of time
lost confidence for a while but am thinking to get back out there and use my quals... just child care as moved 120 miles away and know not many folk
looby

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20 Dec 07 #9344 by soulmanuk
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i have got to the stage where i think the sol doesn't give a s*** about me, i am doing all the running about and she as done nothing she only tells me things that i have already found out for myself. i am thinking of self repping as anybody done it and how easy is it. i have spoke to a friend who is a trainee sol and he suggested with the knowledge i have picked from the helpful people on this forum and what i have learnt from the internet i should self rep. at the end of the day the judges desicion will be the same with or without a sol but there is less money to pay out. as anybody done this or got any advice. thanks

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