Just out on my own today to meet up event.

This building a new life after 22 yrs is hard.

Am out on my own again today to meetup group and keep going round in circles. Need to get divorce started as he won't file but left months ago. need to get work. need to remember to eat, need to get out of this house as to many reminders of old life. So many things need to be done and need to stop worrying. need to watch the news again, read, laugh. He has planned and built his new life. Earns excellent money and moved on whilst i was still stupidly trying to save it. God knows why I tried to save a marriage full of lies and affairs. It will get better but so much to learn about living and surviving financially. Any tips welcome.

To every one else out there good luck and smile whilst we still have that empty feeling, maybe if we do it enough we will con ourselfs into being happier.

Hello Forwards and Welcome to Wiki. No one wants to find themselves here but you will be glad you did as there is lots of support and advice available to you, and people to talk to in chat.

Enjoy your day and do go along to the meetup group. Its good to get out of the house and meet new people so its a step in the right direction. And the sun is shining, which always helps!

It's not easy starting out again after a long marriage and I can't really give you any tips on the best forward. But, one way or another you will get there. I've been on my own for 18 months now after being with my ex all my adult life, but it does get easier. I think I just got by on auto pilot for the first few months. There is so much to sort out, so many decisions to make but just deal with the essentials and remember to eat, sleep, relax etc as much as possible.

Try to have something to look forward to each day, just little things like a bubble bath, going for a swim, a new magazine, or a walk in the park, phoning a friend and getting out when you can.

Life does go on, and things will get better for you if you let them. Never refuse an invitation - fill those empty spaces and don't look back.

And keep smiling (even if it's through your tears).

Take care.

Chrys x