I''m getting increasing confused by my solisitor, to the point where I''m going to see a different one to get a second opinion as I no longer know what is her advice and what she is doing just because I''ve asked her to, regardless of whether it is the best course of action to take.
I wonder if anyone can give me a second opinion on here regarding the spousal /child maintentence though?
My details are as follows:
Me: 33, Ex:37
The number of children you have and their ages; two children, 1year and 3 years old
How many nights the children spend with each parent; only with me, ex currently not having contact.
The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;5years married, a year of cohabitation before hand
Your respective incomes;he earns 2700 net a month. I''m not currently employed, as I am at home looking after the children, but cb, ctc and income support amounts to about 750 a month.
Your respective outgoings;
I am still in the family home, 3 bed ex council house with a mortgage of 830 a month. A small but fairly new car that has low running costs, so about 100 a month running costs, including petrol, tax and car insurance. Food bill, baring in mind I''m still getting formula, is aboutn400 per month.
Ex was living with his parents when he first moved out, so had no housing or utility costs but recently moved to rent a two bed property and now has rent of 900 a month. He runs a car and a motorbike and is claiming costs of 550 a month to run while his food bill is nearly equal to mine at 350. I feel his income needs are hugely inflated, but I don''t know whether a judge in a court would agree or even care?
My ex has been paying me 900 a month, which he sees as being partly child maintenance
(he''s used csa calculator) and half the mortgage. Well, technically just under half, as he is still on the mortgage and sees the house and therefore debt as being half his. He is now threatening to decrease this further.
So, is this a reasonable amount to be paying me a month? I struggle to make ends meet on it, certainly the children won''t be having the same life style as before separation as it would mean no holidays, no clubs or activities and pretty much no Christmas.
Also, is it possible to end up with a legal order or something which states he has to pay x amount until the youngest STARTs school, and then can reduce the amount he pays me? As this would be something I could suggest. I am trained as a teacher so fully intend to go back to work once they are both in school and I''d have no childcare costs, when I wouldn''t need so much support form him as my own income would increase. I can''t afford to go back to work now though, as by the time I cover the child care costs and loose benefits, I''d end up worse off.
Thanks you for reading, any opinions would be gratefully received,