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Confused by my solicitor re expectstions

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07 Jul 12 #341819 by Lostboy67
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ebonyriver wrote:

I don''t want to go to mediation meetings with the ex (coz of the above really) and would like to negotiate through solisitors - does this ever work without ending up in court? We haven''t even begun talking about assets yet, I hate to think what arguments that is going to create.

It doesn''t always end up in court if you negotiate through solicitors, but it is probably more inclined to.
Some (and my no means all) solicitors are inclined to stoke the fire after all an amicable divorce doesn''t pay them that well.

Mediation is a good way to go as it can avoid the conflict that court can bring.


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08 Jul 12 #341824 by Fiona
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Mediation is worth a shot but not recommended when there has been DV. Outbursts of anger at handovers need to stop otherwise the children will be put off contact your ex will bring about his own alienation.

I don''t think you want to go to court over maintenance whilst the settlement is being finalised. There is no guarantee you would be awarded more than you are receiving and you might end up with less. Also the legal costs are unlikely to make it worthwhile. I would try to make do just now and press on with finalising the financial settlement.

There are some dinosaur solicitors who stoke the fire but an astute solicitor knows it isn''t good business acumen in the long term. It''s possible to reach agreement through solicitor, I know, we did it as do many other people.

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