Ancillary Relief - what to expect?

Is the child''s natural father still on the scene?

Charles

I also think that bearing in mind the circumstance you should Petition for divorce. There is no shame in admitting that your wife has left the marital home with a child who you did not father and that you currently live in the house with a low earner that you support.

This is especially important bearing in mind that their is little equity in the home as at the moment there is a sort of status quo in that two people are displaced and two people are accommodated.

I see no reason why you should not disclose the party who is currently living with you and their circumstance - you are co-habiting and still married - that is a fact of life.

So is, without being prejudiced the current situation that you now face and so does the tax payer.

Charles he isn''t he is unknown - convenient or otherwize.

That is the wifes choice whether to go into parenting responsibily or irresponsibly.

From my point of view I got pregnant without specifically discussing it with my ex except that he told me he was despirate for a family - what transpired later was anything but, he just wanted me for my potential money earning and potential inheritance and he is now using kids as a reason for all of what I and my total family is now going through.

As we all know there is more to this post than meets the eye and right now I am concerned for the original poster as i feel he might being going down the same route as the one he is currently trying to escape from.

I do not obviously know who has moved in but from the OP''s point of view I would be very careful right now not to be used as a meal ticket not only once but maybe twice.

thanks guys,

Natural father is unknown to me, she has never disclosed his identity and for what I know he might be living abroad. Only the mother is stated on the Birth Certificate.
We married when the child was 3, and I have never adopted him or anything of this kind.
I Know CSA has no jurisdiction here, however I''m concerned about "children of the family" provisions.
One more thing, we own no house. Both my Ex and I live in rented accomodation.
divorce petition itself contains this category, and from what I see step children who lived under the same roof with us and were taken care of by both of us certainly fall under the category of children of the family.
Has anyone been in a situation where they had to pay maintenance for the step children? Or fought successfully against it?

I haven''t been in the situation you experience but I have been in the situation of not denying by birth my childrens heritage.

The child is not yours end of unless you say so and then if your wife contests it is then she needs to apply for paternatity testing (which she would only do if you were trying to get financial advantage through an intimate situation).

Of course, the situation is reversed. Don''t be a lemon and do not be afraid of the unknown which to date has not happened.

Also do not be taken advantage of in the immediate present and the possible future. You confirm that you have a new parner living with you but you do not explain your family background. Based on the non disclosure I suspect that you come from a stable and loving set of parents and that possibly you are due to inherit something other than debt, no matter how small or large.

Just think on and remember that all is not necessarily as you would want and also that you cannot necessarily "use"! your parents and any assets they might have to make a new liason from an intimate point of view.