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Am I being unfair?

  • Angelcake
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07 Oct 12 #359744 by Angelcake
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My husband and I separated 18 months ago and I have managed on my own without any financial help from him since that time.
Meanwhile he has refused to continue with mediation (he felt she was on my side(?!), has spent oodles on a solicitor, taking his new partner on holidays, meals out etc. He''s never been great at managing his finances, whereas I''m quite good at it. Now he says he has no money and wants half the savings policy I have paid into for 25 years (£13,000) which is about to mature.
While I understand that everything has to go into the pot, it''s hard to take when I am having to watch every penny. Any words of wisdom/consoling thoughts anyone?

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07 Oct 12 #359747 by MrsMathsisfun
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What has happened with the other martial assests?

How long were you married?

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07 Oct 12 #359759 by Angelcake
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We''re going through the financial settlement right now.
We''ve been married 17 years.
He''s cross cos I''ve asked for half his pension but he earns 30k a year and I earn 10k and I don''t have a pension.

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07 Oct 12 #359764 by Lostboy67
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Well TBH I''d have to say you are being a little bit unfair, if you are suggesting that his pension is included and your savings are not.


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