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19 Dec 10 #240612 by pixy
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When my children were little we were very hard up. Almost all their clothes came from charity shops until they went to school. Children grow so quickly that second hand are in very good condition. We also passed children's clothes round the family. As for food, Marshy had a thread a while ago about living cheaply with some really good tips.

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19 Dec 10 #240625 by Silvertears
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ok the circumstances are my husband is haveing the house so i need to move out with boys and rent a place. i work nights now while hes looking after my boys our standart of life at the moment is not high i was earning as a part time just 513 monthly and he was earning 1300 so im use to cooking from scratches and buying from chariti shops but in in divorce settelment i will have 12k which as i know will affect my benefits and im really scared we will not find new place to live as mostly i can see they dont want anyone on benefits.

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19 Dec 10 #240627 by sexysadie
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Why is your husband having the house if you are mainly looking after the children - and why have you agreed to a settlement that will affect your ability to claim benefits? I think you might want to revisit this if it's not been formally agreed yet. Have you had any legal advice?

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19 Dec 10 #240638 by Silvertears
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have been at solicitors its his house and on his name he bought it 11 years ago and we have been married 2 years legally going to court and fighting according to solicitors will not give me more than 30k and caurt takes both of us under considerations in his case he will not be able to rent anything so simply i got a choice or to go without anything or to take those money trying to pay rent for 6 month and furnish our new place and after that claiming housing benefits or just stay with him ( which is not going to happen as i am divorcing my husband on grounds of his unreasonable behaviour ) i accualy feel i am in a bit of a trap here. taking this amount of money means my benefits rights are going down not takeing it means i cant rent or furnish the place.and i am trully scared what future will bring.

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20 Dec 10 #240672 by LouCheshire
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Silvertears.
With regard to renting a house while on benefits.
Give estate agent this line "although I work I have to rely on SOME housing benefit"...this isnt saying that your a sit on your backside while the state pays your rent person who's going to trash the house.
You'll be ok as long as you've got a deposit.
Also, if you were to pay 6 months rent up front that would dispose of some of your money and as long as you're left with under 6K then the next time the rents due you'll get HB.
Lou xx

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20 Dec 10 #240678 by Silvertears
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thank you.thats why i am thinking haveing money of my husband after divorce paying rent streight for 6 months plus deposite and furnished the place ( i honestly have to buy everything from tea towels to beds and so on ) will put me well under 6k saveings.sorry if my post seems to be a bit of a mess but i am really worry as i not only need to rent a place but im moving back to the town i was living before so its like menaging everything at once and trying for the best.
but thank you for all the answers.

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20 Dec 10 #240680 by Deedum
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May be you should open a new thread about the legal side of this so that some of the qualified people can comment.

Although you have only been married two years, you have two young children to take into account and their needs should be the priority. Don't move out and put yourself in a worse position.

Solicitors advise on what they think the outcome will be, but no one really knows.

On your original thread, at the moment it is enough to survive on, but none of us know the future. Benefits are set to change. Each of us have different outgoings, some get child maintenance, some don't. It's something you can't predict, but we all manage somehow and kids grow up!

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