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What the Court expects from parents

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11 Jun 09 #123311 by PositiveThoughts
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My ex and I have no set times agreed on paper, I believe the documentation says something along the lines of 'access to be agreed between parents'.

Although we have a 'routine' that we have agreed between us, it is subject to change at any time. (Hopefully with respectful notice to each other). The advantage of this means that if there is an 'occaision' coming up at a time that it should be 'his' weekend, we just sort an alternative between us and neither of us feels hard done by. I should also point out that it also means that if 'he' wants our son when it's not his time I will work round that as best as I can as well. Luckily, when it comes to our little one we are able to communicate well and with a reasonably friendly manner!

Unfortunately my ex doesn't see very much of our little one, in fact his contact has just dropped to 5 hours every other Saturday, but I have always tried to make arrangements as easy as possible for him. This is down to his working hours and other commitments, not me trying to restrict contact.

It was my ex and me who had the problem, this should not be allowed to interfere with our son's views or opinions, or his right to see his dad. Our little boy is not quite 3 yet and seems happy with the arrangement.

Sorry - didn't mean to go on quite as much!! If you want to know any more, please PM me.

PT x

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11 Jun 09 #123315 by FabDad
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I'm fairly certain she's not really
about anything very much :(

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11 Jun 09 #123316 by Weeme
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Thank you DL. I honestly feel that I am applying these principles despite being under extreme pressure as stbx clearly does not. I am constantly undermined by word and deed and completely dismissed with arrangements being made direct with our young daughter and then relayed to me despite requests not to do this.
CAFCASS are involved due to non agreement and we have met, but due to my slight nervousness during discussion, my anxiousness not to be perceived as whingeing unnecessarily and short time scale I do not feel I explained what is happening. She did give me her tel no. Is it wise to call and discuss further? I am frightened of making the wrong move, but at the same time do not wish a report to be made without full info. What's your advice?

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