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  • Mr.HadEnough
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27 Jun 09 #127136 by Mr.HadEnough
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My ex has cut my access to my children to a maximum of 24hrs every weekend. i.e. If i pick up on a Sat morning at 10am, they have to be back at 10am Sunday. I can also only see them on a Sat / Sat night.

I used to have alternate weekends (Fri nite, Sat day/nite, Sun day), she has stopped this tho cos she says it isnt a routine for the kids!!! I also see them on a Tuesday after school and take them to school the next day (but this has been stopped & started, depending on my ex).

My argument is that I do not get quality time with my children with these new arrangements (i.e. 24hr access).

Finally, I am with a new partner who I normally would see on my weekend off, I also used to play sport with friends on my weekend off (Only poss on a Saturday). She has been sending me a number or vile texts telling me that she and the kids will not fit into my new single life and they come first, not 'her'.

She has had a new partner since Feb and I am happy for her. As long as the he's good around the kids, he's fine by me.

I adore my kids, Ive told her i would have em every weekend, but would like 1 Saturday/night to myself every 2nd week. (I work 8am - 6pm in the week, apart from Tues when i get kids)

I am now going down the court route, has anybody had any similar problems & gone to court? What was the outcome?


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01 Jul 09 #128113 by claudefrog
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Hi, mine started off similar to this and she swapped and changed times and dates etc, although not nice it's better to get into mediation and draw up a schedule that suits you both.

Kids do have routine and what she is saying is understandable but the children have a right to see and stay with both parents.

I eventually got a joint residence awarded but my ex conmpletely let herself down, my wee girl is 4 and I near enough have 50/50 shared care.

Try and work things out amicablly if you can, mediation is excellent if you are both willing and be patient, it takes time to get these things in place.

cheers and good luck


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