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08 Jul 09 #129666 by Stabilo
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I'm new to this forum, but any info would be great.

I'm currently in proceedings to take my child out of the country to set up a new life with my husband. We have looked into everything and believe it is the best for my child and for us as a family. I parted from my ex some years ago and have been going to court ever since over contact, believe me it has been a hell of a rocky road.

Contact with child and father has fluctuated since first being at court. I'm happy for contact as long as child is happy and safe but this is not always the case. He drinks heavily, caused criminal damage several times, abusive, says inappropriate things to my child (i.e. wants to break husbands legs), child witnesses DV between dad and new partner, child gets to stop over night with dads friends when dad isn't present, the list can go on forever.

Despite all this the courts limit contact then it gradually build it back up as they say "contact need to be shown as progressing". My view of the courts is that if the father is willing to fight all the way then he will get what he's asking for, if he is willing to prove himself for a MONTH between hearing then extra contact will be granted, very silly because when contact is increased the problems start again. (I mean it's easy for the father to behave for 3 hours a week on 4 occasions).

My child enjoys contact as there are other children there and has sort of accepted the situation for the way it is. Its upsets my child when he hears rows between dad and girlfriend and when he says things about my husband. Been to Cafcass 4 times now and nothing changes and contact is increased.

Well, going back to my first paragraph. We have put in an application to move. We are waiting for Cafcass again which is looking to take 5 months which brings us up to our deadline as my husband (who is from the country we wish to move) is being transferred in his job due to economy. We are not moving to get away from father but just wish for a better life. We have family and friend and child is excited (despite dad making up horrible stories).

If anyones knows anything about this kind of situation I would be very grateful for your help.

Is there anyway of getting in to see Cafcass quicker or can you pay another body (ie social serv) to do the same?

Thank you for reading

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08 Jul 09 #129732 by charlie09
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I phoned cafcass up myself ................. told them it was affecting my girls and I couldn't possibly wait!
I had some reports from their teachers also ......... about behaviour, moods etc after a weekend visit to their dad's!
I did get seen quicker!

hope this helps!

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08 Jul 09 #129733 by Stabilo
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Thanks, I'll try that one and hopefully I'll get seen sooner

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