cafcass first meeting

Hi all,

well it's finally here, got my first appointment with a CAFCASS officer thursday next week, having been to court with my ex last week for a non molestation order against him (of which was granted thankfully, so hopefully no more threatening emails) i phoned them to make them aware of the current situation and to check to see when my ex was due for his appointment, well he is there in the morning and i am there in the afternoon, could anyone tell me what to exspect on my first meeting? im a bit nervous about it especially as my ex will see the officer first, im not too worried about this because i know for a fact that he will go in there and absolutely slate me and will not be child focused, i would just like to get myself prepared and have a little clue as to the type of questions i will be asked and what the general meeting will be about, obviously it is all to do with the children, but as they have both wrote to the judge stating that they want no contact at all with their father, should i take along emails that i wrote asking their father to meet me to discuss arrangments to see the boys? all of which he totally ignored, and went straight to court, also the emails i sent begging him to stop all the hurtful things he was doing to me and the boys again all ignored, i dont want to go there doing tit for tat with him because i am sure he will turn up with the biggest file youve ever seen, as he did at our court case last week, with alleged over 200 emails that i am supposed to have sent to him, a complete lie of course, i have prob sent about 35 in the 6 months since he left, granted some not so nice but most about our boys, if anyone could give me a little idea as to what to exspect i would really appreciate it.

Roller

Just bumping this up as ive had no replys, hope someone can help out with this question.

thank you Roller

Basically they'll go through some of the background with you. How you lived previously as a family, who did what, where you lived, what the children did.

Then they'll go through in brief why you split up, how things are now, what the routine is and what the arrangements are and how the children live now.

They are purely interested in the children and whats best for them. They are not interested in tit for tat nor are they interested in your personal feelings but they will take note of how you may be allowing your personal feelings to interfere (either intentionally or unintentionally) the childrens relationship with their father.

They will then ask you what you would like to see happen for the future and what contact etc you would be happy with.

There is nothing to be afraid or worried about. Just be honest and child focussed as they're there with the right intention.

T

Thank you very much for your reply nbm

Roller