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15 Nov 09 #162208 by meagain21
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Hi all, i'm new to this and me and my partner have been searching high and low for answers as to what we can do, well here goes and I do hope someone can help.
My partnet split with her ex earlier this year, he moved out the family home leaving lots of debt with her ( all the debts in her name even though it all went on the house and holidays for the family )She then asked him for money towards the kids which he then refused so she went to the CSA which is sorted now.( he still doesn't pay anything towards the mortgage ) The main problem she has is that she wants to move 250 miles away to be close to her parents as she doesn't have the child care in her own town anymore as his parents will neither speak to her or look after the kids as they did prior to them splitting up.
He has now been to his solicitor and has gone for a PSO which she has to attend next week. Another reason she needs to get away is the mental torture he puts on her. He has also threatened me. He is very controlling and thinks he can rule her life forever. She still wants him to keep his contact with the children ( which is all weekend every other week) and is prepared to travel half way to meet these needs. DOES ANYONE THINK THIS WILL WORK OUT IN COURT???????

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15 Nov 09 #162269 by Tets
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The court will be focussed on the best interests of the children, your partners ex will need to demonstrate how the move will not be in the childrens' best interests. How old are the children?

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15 Nov 09 #162275 by meagain21
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The children are 3 and 5.
We are meant to be moving in 3 weeks but fear this will just holds things up.

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15 Nov 09 #162279 by dukey
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The status quo is important with section 8 orders,

They go to school, have friends, are used to living in their home, know their neighbors ect.

To change the status quo the court must be sure it is in the children's best interest and Richard said.

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15 Nov 09 #162281 by meagain21
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Thats the thing they don't have many friends at school or out of school. they don't socialise with kids on the street just stay in the house and play on their own.
When we do move it will be in a close nit community so there will be more chance of them meeting new friends.
her ex is vindictive and will do anything in his power to upset his ex. I don't think he liked the fact she dumped him. Of by the way he's a detective inspector so thinks hes the bees knees.

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15 Nov 09 #162284 by dukey
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The court always aim for the children to have contact with both parents, the court will not allow children to be taken away from a parent with out very good reason.

A PSO can prevent a parent changing the children's school, if you can`t change their school with out agreement imagine how much harder it is to move them many miles away.

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15 Nov 09 #162296 by meagain21
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We have already secured a school place for the eldest child. I just hope the courts see that we don't intend to change contact between the children and their dad.

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