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Sorry I have to say this but time difference is two hours only. If 8pm there it's 6pm here.

What about weekends? On the way to events etc? I would imagine the signal is better in the towns and main population areas where these activities are being held?

I presume you could have contacted him via email, letter or solicitor and used the reasoning you've just said that he won't pick up unlisted calls etc and as such this is a courtesy communication to say that the children will be ringing at X time on X day per week? It then falls up to him to make himself be available and the courts would have accepted that you had done everything reasonable and the onus was put back on him.

T

As long as the onus is back on him to make himself available for the phone calls and you can evidence this with copies of solicitors letters etc as evidence.

I'm not being harsh all I'm doing is giving you a pre-taste of what the other side and judge will ask you which means you can start looking at the situation now. If anything I'm actually being soft on you as they'll be much harder.

T

Ok, facts of the matter are yes I accept that you've been abused etc etc and all the awful things that have happened.

Yes he may just be doing this because of his girlfriend etc and to spite you.

BUT the court will look at it that you were so unhappy with the court order for contact that instead of taking it back and choosing the court and when this would happen and where etc and asking for a variation in contact to emails or post only (indirect contact) so that no abusive calls could take place (which you could have recorded as examples) you chose not to. You chose to have the attitude of 'i'm not in jurisdiction' instead.

By not doing this you are going in as the respondent and the 'guilty' one not your ex and as such you will have to justify why you didn't do the above and just took matters into your own hands.

By not turning up (and I appreciate there are difficulties but is there no way you could have arranged to be available by phone etc or the children and pets etc stay with your new husband or friends that you now have there?) you again do not put yourself in a good light.

You stated in your previous posts etc that you were still claiming benefits and CSA etc as it was only a two year posting in the british army. Is this still the case? If so are you quite sure that the britsh legal system has no jurisdiction with you?

T