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Ok, if you want me to be honest when you're putting together your list of what you want you need to think carefully about whats realistic and you'll be supported in (with CAFCASS and the court) and whats not.
To help you get an idea start off by going down the list below and then work from there about what else needs looking at:
Schedule of items in relation to the exercise of parental responsibility, identifying those items which require mutual consultation and those which could be exercised unilaterally. A copy of this useful document was attached as a footnote to the judgment A v A  EWHC 142 (FAM).
Decisions that could be taken independently and without any consultation or notification to the other parent.
* How the children are to spend their time during contact
* Personal care for the children
* Activities undertaken
* Religious and spiritual pursuits
* Continuance of medicine treatment prescribed by GP
Decisions where one parent would always need to inform the other parent of the decision, but did not need to consult or take the other parent's views into account.
o Medical Treatment in an emergency
o Booking holidays or to take the children abroad in contact time
o Planned visits to the GP and the reasons for this
Decisions that you would need to both inform and consult the other parent prior to making the decision.
* Schools the children are to attend, including admissions applications.
* Contact rotas in school holidays
* Planned medical and dental treatment
* Stopping medication prescribed for the children
* Attendance at school functions so they can be planned to avoid meetings wherever possible
* Age that children should be able to watch videos. ie videos recommended for children over 12 and 18.
Do you mind me asking how you are approaching the issue of getting your ex to recognise your PR? I am wondering whether the I should send this reference to the solicitor my ex and ask that they finally consider looking at the parenting plan that I have been asking for since May 2009.
I'm concious that this is a thread started by someone else, should I be carrying on this discussion in another thread?
He is capable of parenting them, just as I am, that I do know. But the complete shut down of information is what bothers me and leaves me wondering just what is going on - our eldest tells me enough to give me concerns and that's without prompting and I do know he's not beyond telling the children to keep secrets from me or not tell me something because it will upset me. the only thing that upsets me is not knowing where the hell the children are!
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