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12 Feb 10 #184760 by Darnoo001
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22nd december both parties asked to attend mediation, I jump and made arrangments at the turn of the new year, with a return to court date 16th feb 10, I attended mediation 7th jan and passed all exs details over, I called the mediation centre yesterday and was told that the case had been cancelled.not sure what that means, not sure if the ex attended, or she did, but said mediation would not work, not sure what her next move will be, could be another delay to the sorting out process. she might want to use the tact that mediation didnt work before. It didnt, ex only wanted me to have daughter every other weekend, but had more contact 50/50, is was documented that her request was every other weekend, but never agreed...What is she up to!!!

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24 Feb 10 #188000 by Jools64
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I've been to mediation several times before and they come under several guises. Mediation has strong affiliation with solicitors as they tend to 'chair' the sessions between the parties. It is advised the the parties both be present at the same time. Those who mediate stipulate that the end agreement is not legally binding but can be included in any legally binding court agreement. The idea of mediation is for you and your ex to be in a controlled environment to discuss and negotiate what ever you want to negotiate. The premise being that is saves you money by not going through the adversarial route. Why did you 'pass all you ex's details over'? If your ex was not present, then there was no obligation for you to have done that. You should be attending mediation together. You've shown willing that you've attended mediation, it is up to your ex to tell the court why she did not attend. But the judge will see that she was not there and perhaps involve CAFCASS or a Social Worker to attain a 'wishes and feelings' report. This report (Section 7 I think) is essential to ascertain what the child wants and their relationship with both parents. Hope this helps you.

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