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24 Feb 10 #187886 by zonked
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When and how to make the proposal is another tricky point. If communication between you both is now improved would it be worthwhile to say that you have some suggestions for the future and invite her to mediation. Then, with lots of sugar, make the proposal...perhaps calling it a trial period to see how things go.

If you decide to be a ltigant in person your personality will be much more visible to the court. That can be a disaster or blessing. Will the Judge see an angry, emotional and controlling man? If so, being LIP is not for you. Alternatively, a father who comes across as child focussed, sincere and honest is in my view a very potent weapon.

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24 Feb 10 #187887 by Elle
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As with all professions there are good and bad...many here have self repped in contact issues successfully, some not so...as have many felt well represented and others not so...it is truly not rocket science and if you feel you can remain factual and unemotive...IMHO go for it...no one cares more about your life than you no matter how much you pay them! However if you have/can find a sol that you have confidence in and can afford this, lot less stressful.


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24 Feb 10 #187899 by eyes on horizon
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Basically..when she stopped contact she refused any form of contact with me.
then we turn up for Directions and she is communicative and open. It was a bit of a shock to say the least.

We are civil to each other, I never was anything but. However we havent really exchanged anything other than the odd text about p/u times and such.
I did offer mediation before I filed the C100 originaly. I did not get a repsonse but now I wonder if a politely worded letter to her solicitor with my contact proposal might be the best way to go.
I am in a mind to think she will hide behind the order..and not want to discuss anything until the hearing. If thats the case then I do not suppose I have lost anything other than communicated my wishes for the children to see me as often as possible, and what I am proposing.

elle, definitely got the impression from teh judge last time that he thought I was taking the whole process more seriously than her. She yawned when he was addressing us about the importance of shared parenting...

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