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15 Mar 10 #191925 by Gershie
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Hi Legion

Ok. Are the court aware that she is going to move?

What are her reasons for such a move?

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15 Mar 10 #191928 by legion060606
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yes they know about it, her reasons are, she has the loving support of her family and has a job prospect? so what r my chances of seeing my daughters and its a long way 2 travel, would i be able 2 get her 2 meet me halfway, i think she thinks i will just give up?

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15 Mar 10 #191931 by Gershie
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Legion

Your options are then;

- Face facts, the court know, no one has tried to stop her. Strange though that in the middle of an application for contact, the ex moves and nobody does anything about it?

- You can make an application to the court for a prohibitive steps order, based on the fact that you see this as a move to counteract your contact application. This may or not be successful as the court are aware that she is moving. However this is a difficult one as you have not had any contact for such a long time and the court may see it as you interfering with her life. I would suggest that you are on a loser here. Unless you can prove that it is not in the best interests of the child and that the move is malicious, that she does not have a job etc.....

As for the future, I think it is going to be difficult for you. After such a long time of not seeing the kids, they (CAFCASS, SS) are not going to want you jumping straight back in to the child's life. You will probably be looking at contact session's at a centre, close to the new home.

I know that is not what you want to hear, but it is the way of the world.

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15 Mar 10 #191935 by legion060606
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im happy with contact at a center, i know the kids will most prob wont remember me? and she has told them im dead? just want 2 know will i get 2 c them

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15 Mar 10 #191936 by Gershie
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Hi Legion

Nobody, unless you are some kind of ogre will ever stop you seeing your kids.

You have to be realistic though and accept that they can be influenced by the resident parent, that's the unfortunate part of all this.

However, review what you are setting out to achieve, be sensible in your wish to be a part of your child's life and go for it. It's amazing what you can achieve if you are dedicated to the child. If you are to be interviewed by CAFCASS then say what you would like and stick by it.

As to the allegations, if they are not true then deny them, ask for proof. Your relationship is with your child not anyone else and that should take priority over everything else.

I wish you luck, hope your health is good now, let us know how things go.

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15 Mar 10 #191940 by justjess
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Probably not what you want to hear but if she moves away, then most likely the court hearings will be moved also to a court nearest to where the children reside.

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15 Mar 10 #191948 by legion060606
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yes i already know that. it just feels like i nearly died and everything is working in her favour

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