narcissistic mothers

has anyone had any experience with a narcissistic partner who is intent in ruining there relationship with there child?

martin mclardy wrote:

has anyone had any experience with a narcissistic partner who is intent in ruining there relationship with there child?

Probably 90% of people who have had to trawl through the courts for no good reason just to remain in their childrens lives.
But you just dare mention that word in court and her barrister will have a field day ripping you to bits and the judge won't do one thing to stop them.
It is a medical disorder and without medical proof it will be turned right back on you.
It could destroy your case.

You must stick to FACTS only and concentrate on your childs welfare, nothing else.
If the mother is a spiteful cow who is intent on blocking contact at any cost then it's up to the judge to work that out.
Try to influence him/her by bringing up NPD and you're in trouble.

Good advice Tom and I,ve taken it on board. I wont say I wasn,t intent on bringing it up at court but it is on my mind. Its just when you speak to someone about my situation unless they have been through it you tend to see them thinking there must be a good reason why she would try her best to stop me gaining access and for the life of me its the only reason that seems to fit the jigsaw perfectly. So you wouldn,t advise me to wear a Micky Mouse outfit and a t shirt saying court in session then!
Tom I,ve had better advice from you today than I seem to have had from my lawyer in three years and for that I am truly grateful.

Cheers mate

Martin

Martin,
A few years ago when my ex stopped me seeing my daughter I felt the same as you do.
I was shocked, horrified, angry as hell.
Screaming from the rooftops that the woman was a raving lunatic, obviously suffering everything from dementia, Narcissistic personality disorder to Munchousens syndrome.

CAFCASS came down on me like a ton of bricks, social services tried to say that I was the lunatic and I got two hours a fortnight in a contact centre with my daughter.
I quickly learned the way with a bit of advice from some good people on forums, got more contact, extended contact and holidays and eventually a shared residence order.

The courts work in a peculiar way and if you can learn it and go along that path then you have a much better chance of success.
Best of luck mate.

Ditto I started with the two hours and now have access from 10am Sat until 7pm on the Sun. I have a son to an other mother and have had no problems what so ever. I always had them both from Fri to Sun so when I took her back to court to obtain the full weekend ( every second week ) to which I received a phone call from her mother saying that if I indeed pursued for the Fri then my 8 year old daughter would in her words "resent me". Its has been since xmass that my daughter refuses to come through to me at the contact centre yet I know that it is because of the demands that her narcissistic mother put,s a pone her. I had an independent lawyer do a report on my daughter and i and I could not have had a better one if I had wrote it myself. It goes to proof soon but because of whats happening now there is an other child wellfare hearing before. Any tips?

Cheers mate

Martin

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