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Self repping this week, advise please

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07 Jun 10 #207803 by Sparkles
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Hello - for once not too complicated a question from me.

I'm self repping for the first time this week at a Directions hearing. I'm not too worried about the content because I have all my stuff sorted, but I would really appreciate it if anyoen could spare a few moments to lay out how the mechanics of it will run - what I do when I get to court etc.

I suspect I'll be asked to reach a compromise with my exh over the issue - previously my solicitor would have had the conversation with his solicitor - I assume I have to talk to them directly.

I'd very much appreciate any advice.

Many thanks
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07 Jun 10 #207830 by TBagpuss
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Yes, you will need to speak directly to his solicitor.

I would recommend that you aim to be at court 20-30 mins before your case is listed. When you arrive, check in with the Usher/Clerk and let them know that you are self-repping and that you are willing to speak to his solicitor when s/he arrives.

I know it seems very basic, but when speaking to her solicitor do listen carefully to what they actually say - I often find that when someone is acting in person they've often spent a lot of time planning what they think will happen and end up responding to what they have assumed you are going to be suggesting, not what you've actually said!

Is this about contact or finances?

If it is about contact, you may find it useful to take with you a photocopy (opr several) of the children's school calander so you have the dates of any holiays, and because it can be very helpful to be able toactually physically mark contacts on a calander when you are discussing when the children will be with each of you.

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07 Jun 10 #207831 by Sparkles
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Thanks, that helps.

Ex has made an application for specific issues order to allow overseas contact during the summer. He had not given the court ordered 3 months notice so I said it had to take place here rather than abroad.

Ex has disregarded court order on 3 successive previous occasions and I have compromised as he requested. I said no to compromoise this time and he said he would take me to court.

(yes you did read it right, ex has broken the Court Order for the 4th time and is now taking me to Court to get permission to continue to ignore the court order)

The dates requested are not a problem and I am in no way refusing to allow LittleSparkles contact with Dad. This should be purely about where it takes place (so hopefully sraightforward)

Thanks again
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07 Jun 10 #207843 by mumtoboys
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Just wanted to see good luck with it! Let us know how you get on. xxx

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07 Jun 10 #207847 by Sparkles
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Bless you, thanks, I will report back, I'm thinking if can self rep anyone can...we'll see how I go!

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