anyone ever been through the enforcement process??

Overnight contact 3 weekends a month (so one weekend a month he''s with his mum) from sat til Sunday and then it will change in jan 2013 to fri -sun every other weekend as in the contact order.

As he is unable to have mid week contact this would be the only way he could have him for more contact

If the mother opposes it I doubt you would get 3 out of 4 but you could try.

Why doesnt your partner have contact at her house as shes offered?

Shes not offered contact at her house as additional contact, she means as a way partner can see his son if son doesn''t want to have court ordered overnight contact.

My partner also feels very uncomfortable being in her home with her and her new husband listening and watching everything he does with his son, they don''t exactly like each other much so not sure why shed want my partner sitting in her house for the day,

He doesn''t need supervised visits he just wants the court ordered time with his son really and any extra time he could have too but she will not budge on even an extra hour unless son calls her to request it

She will def be opposed to any additional contact and will prob try to get it reduced if possible, it''s a nightmare

It won''t be reduced so I wouldn''t sweat over it.

Hi,

I doubt that your partner will be granted 3 weekends a month. What is the reason he can''t have every other weekend at the moment? Why wait until Jan 2013?

he is supposed to have every other weekend at the moment but just for one night but son is saying he doesnt want to see him and mum says she wont force him if he says he doesnt want to.

ex stated in court when the order was made that she didnt think fri-sun was a good idea right now as son has just started school and will be too tired on a friday for the journey. She requested a few months for him to settle into school routine before the nights are increased to fri-sun every other weekend and my partner agreed to it otherwise it would have gone to a final hearing and my partner was self repping so wanted it all sorted out asap.

He went again today to collect his son and yet again didnt have contact. he put son in the car and he cried a bit so mum came and took him out. He then took him to the cafe around the corner and mum turned up there too, by the time all the pussy footing around was over son was hysterical about going with my partner and he didnt have the heart to drag him kicking and screaming to the car.

Ex has now admitted that son needs to see a councillor but still refuses to accept that sons issues are because of her approach to contact and that she lets him decide if he wants to see his dad and that he feels very torn.

My partner said he was going to take son with him today at one point and she wanted him to sign something to say that if son is still upset in 2 hours she can collect him. its just ridiculous.

Son has said again today that he thinks his mum is scared if he goes with daddy and she will be upset.

my partner emailed her with suggestions for handovers, i.e a neutral place away for the home, someone else to drop him off and she disagreed to it all.

He has sent another email today saying that if she is willing to work with him and try these suggestions then he will put the enforcement application on hold. Just waiting for a reply.

We are not sure whether enforcement action is the nest way to deal with this now

Just such a bif mess