anyone ever been through the enforcement process??

Oh, what a mess

I can''t imagine what is going through that little boys head, and he has just started school too

What are Mum''s issues with contact? Is there a certain sticking block, or is it just contact in general?

Do you think his Son is suffering Separation Anxiety Issues when having to leave Mum? How has he settled into School?

I have heard that there are Separated Parent Courses that the courts can send you on which are supposed to be very good. Has this been discussed? It could be a good option?

they''ve both been through the courses as ordered by the court.

Mum just doesnt seem to want him to have contact with his dad. He had to take her to court for contact as she was only alowing him 4 hours a week on a sunday and refused to increase it.

She constantly texts and calls when hes with us and it seems as soon as hes left us she interrogates him as she will send texts accusing all sorts.

She turned up here at 1am demanding to take her son last boxing day and sent 27 text messages and 9 calls during the day all because she kept wanting to speak to son and son eventually got upset on the phone to her so she insisted she was coming to get him, we had to call the police.

She stops contact using hes ill excuse and now shes using the excuse that he doesnt want to go. He seems to have been brainwashed as the last time we had him was mid august, we went caravaning and he had a great time, no issues at all as there never are anyway. He loves being with us especially my 5 year old daughter from a previous relationship as they play together very well. so this is all out of blue and very concerning.

Ex blames everything on my partner by the way.

Hes fine at school and with anyone else, its just my partner theres a problem with.

There are a lot of symtoms of parent alienation.

She sounds very insecure and controlling, however, that doesn''t solve your problem

I would say she also needs counselling. What is your relationship with her like? Is there animosity? Is she jealous when her son visits you all ( your daughter included ) as a family unit?

My concern with enforcement would be that she will say the child has issues, and the courts may want this investigated, and possibly reduce contact? I am no expert, I have never been through the court process. But, they do treat the child''s welfare with paramount importance.

What has her reaction to your partner taking enforcement action been ? I would personally worry that she will raise welfare issues why he is resisting contact, and use it to her advantage. Also, UK Courts do not recognise Parent Alienation Syndrome so I certainly wouldn''t raise this in Court.

I completely agree with you.

My partner and her dont get on at all and can hardly speak to eachother without it turning into an arguement.

I have spoken to her on a few occasions and we get on ok. She seems a lot more reasonable when she speaks to me but does back track on things she has done and said however we have been able to sort a few issues out between us in the past although they havent lasted.

Im not sure how she feels about us as a family unit, She met her new husband 18 months ago and they are already married and have a child on the way so I think she was very keen to have a family unit herself.

My partner left her when son was 3 months old and I think she may still feel bitter about that.

Although im not expert it comes across as she wants to hurt my partner. she has text him things in the past like ''sweetdreams, sleep well'' after they have had a disagreement about her not letting my partner see son. this is just one example.

Yes she probebly could do with councilling too and I hope that when they book the councillor for son that the councillior suggests this as she wont accept hearing it from my partner.

The issue stands at the moment that it will be 8 weeks my partner hasnt had contact soon and the longer this goes on, the worse its going to get.

Do not react to the vindictive behaviour. It feeds the trolls

My ex does something rather cruel. At handover she will hang around while my daughter cries. My daughter then ends up getting more and more upset. Then she leaves and grins at me. It only takes me less than 100 seconds to calm her down though. Ex doesnt realise this as and think I probably spend ages calming my daughter down.

These are all "tricks"... see them for what they are.

Khan you are bang on the money. My stbx recently told my children before I picked them up that she was going to turn up at a family event I was taking my children to. This was over 250 miles away!!! She obviously said this to try and upset and worry me which it didn''t. But my point is that she PROMISED this to her child just to try and upset me. Who the he''ll in their right mind would do that??? Of course I didn''t react.