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  • blondecazza
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11 Mar 15 #457755 by blondecazza
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I think maths if the father has shown bullying behaviour towards the mum then the child could well be picking up on that.
All mum can do at the moment is stay strong and keep reassuring the son that she loves him.
Whatever the reason it doesn''t seem right to me that the daughter is joining in as well now.
Keep control mum and get it nipped in the bud.

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12 Mar 15 #457769 by mumof 3
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thanks so much for all the replies.

it feels at times that i am being ganged up on for want of a better word.
if i try to walk away from him he follows me around the house and squares up to me.
he is bigger and stronger than me and to be honest even though it sounds stupid i am scared that at some point he is going to hurt me.
i had a relation visiting recently and he also turned on her and shouted abuse.
she is worried for my safety and said she had never witnessed behaviour like it in her life.

part of me feels like i am never going to win the love and respect of my children back as they are being fed endless lies about the split.
i dont understand how an adult can feel it is acceptable to use these children as pawns in a game and not see the damage he is doing.
i never thought that i would feel some days as if it is better to walk away from them and let them all live with ntheir dad but i know deep down he is using them to abuse me as he used to do and when he gets bored of this game what is left for theses children then.

my friends and family are at a loss to explain what is going on and he refuses to visit any of them.
its like they have been indoctrinated against everyone they have ever loved and i dont know what to do.

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16 Apr 15 #459906 by Gnome
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Please don''t feel alone, I just wanted to let you know that I am going through this with my son who is a very similar age (been going through it for 2 years, so far).

If it would help to talk please feel free to PM.

I can empathise with what you have said very well

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