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19 Mar 15 #458323 by Jazz555
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Hello there. I''m desperate for some advice if someone has been in my situation, which I''m sure there must be someone out there......? I have spent a year in court and finally got 50/50 shared custody of my 2 and 5 yr olds. However the court order was a little open ended. It stated I collect the children after school. So i had been collecting both children from my ex at 4.30pm when I finished work (ex don''t work) All was ok until my ex then asulted me, ex got arested but not charged, then my ex applied and has got an injunction out on ME which i shall be defending this month as I did nothing wrong. (tactic to obtain free legal advice on domestic abuse charge) So much so the district judge has downgraded the next hearing at magistrates court as he felt it was all a waste of time! My ex then stated that the handovers would be done with myself and the grandmother as my ex was "too scared" to do the handover, so consequently i cannot have the younger child until grandmother finishes work at 6pm!!! I have managed to get around it with 5yr old by paying for after school club and getting older child direct from school :)So......went back to court to get order amended to state 4.30pm and here''s where it gets tricky and advice needed....... Judge said he cannot make ex do the handovers? Possibly because of pending injunction? And nobody else can do the handovers apart from grandmother at 6pm....how convenient! is the childs best interest at heart here, considering his bed time is 6.30pm??? I get 30mins max with him before he goes to bed. So I suggested we meet in public at the school gate and do handover of children there, ex opposed this and felt that if something were to happen then in would not be fair I front of children (albeit my ex did not seem to worry about splitting my lip open in front of our children) .....so judge said unable to take place at school. And I''m not prepared to collect from the grandmothers house, where my ex currently lives as I feel threatened and they have CCTV which they could easily delete if they decided to hit me, which the grandfather has come very close to doing in the past. Can anyone please help or suggest how we can do the collection/handovers? Thank you all in advance.

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20 Mar 15 #458345 by Unctuous
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Rather than use your exs 3rd party for the handover why not use your own 3rd party? Ex drops off at a registered childminder at 4.30 and you pick up at 4.45 perhaps?

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21 Mar 15 #458439 by Jazz555
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Hi there

Thank you so much for your suggestion. Only problem is I''m going to be out of work in April for the first time in my life so not going to be able to find that. I don''t have any friends or family.....well I do but they are all 4 and half hours drive away. can your great mind stretch to any other ideas? X

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