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Relocating w.children, anyone had to go to court?

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20 May 15 #461739 by boga
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Hi, I am facing a court ''battle'' with my ex as I want to move with our 4 young children to Surrey and he objects. The 5 of us live in central London in a small 2 bed flat (rented) and need more space, a garden, etc. It looks like we will have to go via the court process.

Has anyone had to go this route? How did it go/end? How long did it take and which parent did the court decide in favour of?

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20 May 15 #461754 by WYSPECIAL
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happened to a relative of mine a few years ago and i helped with the application.

Outcome was that court refused to allow the children to move schools etc which basically meant the move was off. It was to move nearer to a new partner which she eventually did but without the children who went to live with their father and saw their mother in the school holidays.

Obviously every case is individual so make sure you have got suggestions for contact, details of what family support you have in the area etc etc

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20 May 15 #461759 by mumtoboys
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Central London to any part of Surrey is hardly the back of beyond, even if traffic in the general area might make a relatively short distance a very long journey.

How old are the children? Are you sharing care?

I don''t think the move you are proposing sounds unreasonable. Why do you feel you will need to go through the court system?

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20 May 15 #461760 by boga
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Children are nearly 9, nearly 7, 5 and 3.

At the time of divorce last year we agreed to 8 nights per month with father, rest with me. This 8 nights included midweek (every tues) with father at his request because he wanted some weekends ''off''. I tried really hard to facilitate this (even forced them to go at one point thinking it would get easier) but the kids hate it and just want to come home after school.

Proposed new location is 55 mins from Waterloo by train and I propose to drive them to him every 2 weeks for weekends to help. He can have as much of kids hols as he wants.

Our life in central London is not a long term situation as our housing is cramped.


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20 May 15 #461761 by Unctuous
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That 9yo is going to be a teenager in a short while and will need their own space. You are going to want to move them into an area prior to them getting into secondary school.

Stick to reasons why this is a move for your childrens benefit and the arguments should stack in your favour.

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21 May 15 #461830 by wishfulthinking
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Yes, I relocated from England to Northern Ireland. I had less than 12 hours to prepare my argument. I focused on the proposed area, the sporting activities and the various education options.

I only mentioned the benefits to the children.

I personally would not offer any help to the other parent re assisting with travel etc. Keep it simple and about the children e.g. it only takes x tiem to get into London. If their father wants to see them, he will make it happen.

My case was helped by the fact that their father had not seen them for several months and it was clear to the judge that the case was about controlling me and not about the children.

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