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First Holy Communion for Child

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30 May 16 #478993 by HappyOneDay
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A friend''s ex will not permit him/his family to come to their child''s First Holy Communion. He is going to court to fight this. Does anyone have any bright ideas about how to share a special religious occasion like this when relations between the exes (and their families) are very bad? Would it make sense to ask the child (8 years old) what she wants? Whether it is important that Dad is there or whether celebrating later would be preferred?

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30 May 16 #478996 by WYSPECIAL
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Could always just attend the church and watch discreetly.

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30 May 16 #479009 by rubytuesday
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It''s worth noting that religious or spritual activities are one of a small number of activities that a parent with PR can take independently of the other without consultation or notification to the other parent.

See the footnote from LJ Wall in A v A [2004] EWHC 142 (Fam)

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30 May 16 #479014 by HappyOneDay
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Thanks Ruby Tuesday. My friend is the biological parent so he does have PR. He is not the Residential Parent but I know that does not matter. He has Parental Rights. He has an undertaking to stay 100 feet away from his ex. This is conflicting with his right to attend a religious ceremony which he supports and very much wants to be a part of for his child. The ex will of course be there so maintains that he cannot attend. Any bright ideas?

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30 May 16 #479015 by rubytuesday
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If he has an undertaking to stay a 100 feet away from his ex then it''s unlikely he would be able to maintain that distance if he attends the service - even if he sneaks in and sits at the back. The ex could also claim that him attending constitutes harassment and a breach of his undertaking. Turning up is only likely to cause a scene and take the focus away from his daughter''s important milestone.

All he can do is let his daughter know that he is thinking of her on her big day and perhaps send her a First Communion gift.

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30 May 16 #479018 by Unexpected101
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Forgive me hijacking this thread - Does the religious and spiritual activities thing include circumcision? This is something I need to know about

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30 May 16 #479019 by rubytuesday
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Circumcision is a medical procedure (regardless of the reason why it''s carried out), and consent from both parents should be sought before carrying out this often unnecessary medical procedure. It maybe possible to obtain a Prohibited Steps ORder to prevent a parent from securing a medical procedure for a child when the procedure is only for religious reasons and not for medical reasons.

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