Social Services had a report from school which caused them to warn ex. They told me on three different occasions that they are concerned ex is emotionally abusing child, and they told her as much.
But in their safeguarding note to Cafcass they left that out. So Cafcass are now saying this is just a parental dispute over contact.
Ex is now denying ever being warned by Social Services.
I e-mailed Social Services this week, asking if there has been an unintentional oversight, or perhaps I have misunderstood something. In the past they have always replied within a day. On this occasion, two days of silence.
Were these concerns ever put in writing to you, either in a report or a letter?
When these comments were made, were they made by different social workers at different times? If yes, then it does seem strange that nothing further was done to follow up these concerns.
As for replying, perhaps they are busy - I would expect to wait for a few days before hearing anything back. I wouldn't read too much into not receiving a reply after just 2 days, especially the week after half term.
Never in writing by them, but I put it in writing to them when confirming the conversations.
Comments made three different times by the same social worker over a two week period. She initiated contact with me, not the other way around.
The third time I asked whether her comments were relevant to court. She was very clear that she stands by her comments, and that she has put her analysis on the file, so that the Court could see it if needed. But that unless they have further evidence of abuse then they need a court order to proceed. And that getting evidence is difficult, because they abuse they think is happening is emotional and psychological.
She also told me that I need to let the court know about all of the history, for example, ex-wife not allowing me to cut child's hair, racist comments against my new wife, and so on.
I sent an e-mail to social services to confirm the conversations. I got a very brief reply from her manager, saying that she was glad that there had been some improvement for child over the last two weeks, and that my email had been placed on the file, with no further action to be taken at this time.
So I was really surprised that their note to Cafcass did not mention their concerns.
There is a timing issue here, as the Cafcass finalise their safeguarding report for the court on Tuesday.
Social Services replied a week later, in writing. Said that they have limited time, and are asked by Cafcass to only give a brief update. But they are happy to confirm (or otherwise) any account I give the Court should the Court ask them to do so.