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I am frustrated and confused by my solicitor

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23 Aug 09 #140876 by bubbleface
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I tried to sort out the finance and childcare through mediation, it didn't work

My ex wife cannot afford to take the mortgage on all by herself but she wants to stay in the family home. We have large debts together which were run up partly for renovating the house. I cannot afford my own outgoings let alone hers. I pay CSA for my son.

When I first met my solicitor she said my ex wife would have to sell the house and we would pay off the debts that way. I decided to go to court to do this. We are coming up to the FDR and now after 4k worth of legal fees my solicitor is now saying it is unreasonable to ask my ex to move as it is the home to three kids (two are not mine and they lived there before I met her - though the house was a three bed and is now a six bed due do extension built during time with me) and as my ex can't pay the loans off then I should. I have no money, in fact further in debt due to large solicitor bills.
She has also asked how I propose my ex wife and the children be re-housed. Is this not my ex's job to work that out and possibly the other fathers of her children?

I am confused, is my solicitor not meant to work out a way to look after my interests? I feel that after all this expense she is now saying it is a waste of time. Why not say this at the beginning? She has more or less the same info now as back then.

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24 Aug 09 #140885 by D L
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I am sorry you are confused. If you read this thread and post the details requested therein we can all try to do some sums for you:


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