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Daughter sharing room with unrelated boy

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21 Apr 12 #325479 by Jenna29
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I am in a similar situation. When my daughter, aged 4, visits her father on alternate weekends she shares a bedroom with his girlfriends brother who is aged almost 9 years old. I am not happy about the situation, particularly as he has a large house and there is no need for them to be sharing but don''t see that there is much I can do?

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21 Apr 12 #325483 by stepper
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My ex.dil''s partner has three children. My son had similar concerns regarding sleeping arrangements, but it was not mixed sex.

His concerns were that three boys all slept in the same double bed. This took place on school nights as well as weekends and the youngest boy in particular, used to claim he was tired and got kicked in bed. That went on for about twelve months.

The situation now is that the two eldest boys share the double bed (ages 12 and ll).

My son''s problem is that the children were told never to discuss what goes on when they are at their mother''s house. Mostly the boys make their comments spontaneously. However, my son has been accused of questioning them on more than one occasion, so it has been a bit tricky to establish the situation accurately.

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21 Apr 12 #325501 by mumtoboys
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if the children are young and are not expressing any concern over the arrangement, I can''t see what the issue is. We all need to be allowed to do what we want with our lives and our living arrangements post-divorce. That does mean that we have to relinquish a certain level of ''control'' we might have once had, whether we''re the resident or non-resident parent.

People can''t just magic bedrooms and extra space up out of nowhere. Things are tight at the minute, people can''t just up and move to accommodate the needs of the wider step family. It''s not ideal, but there are thousands of children living in these circumstances across the country and the vast majority of them turn out healthy, normal adults.

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